Is the amount of self-respect and confidence a woman display tied to how much skin she shows or doesn't show?

Perhaps there is a correlation but I doubt that they directly tied to one another. I know a several gals who are very confident and don’t mind showing skin and girls who wear a lot of clothes but are very insecure.

How much skin a woman shows doesn’t have anything to do with how confident they are or how much self respect they have. What she hopes will happen because of it does.

It does depend, I think, on exactly HOW she is dressed. Remember that poor female reporter that wound up the center of attention because she was in the Jets (I think) locker room after the game, and some lurid comments were made by some of the players (which she didn’t object to…somebody else did.)? She was beautiful, had a great body, and wasn’t afraid to show it. She had a lot of self confidence.

I think it so much depends on the female….

Bad taste in clothing is not necessarily an indicator of a lack of self esteem. ;)

You talking about me again @lucillelucillelucille!!

@Dutchess_III nah…XD

I think there is a difference between clothes that are cut to show nice curves and some skin on a trim woman, and the same clothes trying to be worn by a not-so-trim woman—clothes that show fat rolls instead of curves. I think the latter probably suffers from low self-esteem. The latter is trying to emulate someone she wishes she could be, and not being herself.

@Dutchess_III I don’t think even then it’s true, one gal I know around 190 lb (forgive me if you are also a flutherer, I don’t wanna die yet), who wears revealing clothes as to deliberately disturb everyone around her and perhaps get into a fight. She is perfectly comfortable as such.

I don’t really see a comparison, actually.

One is cultural, albeit, it’s not a culture I could be happy in, having grown up in America. Then again, I wouldn’t be happy walking around naked carrying water to my village, either.

The other examples are of women who are screaming for attention for one reason or another.

@Dutchess_III I think you can “look like a tramp” at any shape or size.

[Edit: @iamthemob said it best.]

I would note that while it is true that some women choose to wear coverings like the abaye or burkha—as do many American Muslim women, for example—there are some countries where women are forced to do so by law. When a woman is forced to do so under duress, then I am sure that it is not a reflection of her high level of self-esteem or self-respect. It is only that she is following the law of the land. EDIT: previous poster beat me to the punch.

@Winters Living your life only to piss people off means something was seriously lacking in their child hood. They could never make any one happy, or proud, and the only way to get attention was to be bad. That’s an indication of poor self esteem.

@Taciturnu Yes, you can look like a tramp at any stage, but if the clothes aren’t trampy, and are simply nice fitting, you look attractive. An obese woman trying to wear the same tight clothes does NOT look attractive. She may not look “trampy,” but she certainly doesn’t look sexy.

I don’t think that there is necessarily a connection between self-esteem and modesty/immodesty. I think that even if two people make the decision to dress the same way, they may have different motivations.

@Dutchess_III she doesn’t only live to piss people off, she does it occasionally (I should have stated this earlier) for her amusement, a little peculiar, but everyone is to varying degrees.

Well, I always dressed modestly, although I could have pulled off anything in my teens, 20’s, 30’s, even 40’s. I chose not to. I wanted people to approach me based on who I was, my personality, my intellect, not my sexuality. I had high self esteem.

Maybe it has more to do with intelligence? Have you noticed that many real life, very successful intelligent women just don’t place that much emphasis on their hair and attire (I’‘m not talking about the movies…)? I mean, yeah, they have to to a certain extent, for a variety of professional reasons, but it’s part of their job and it’s not their main focus or concern, like it is for many other women.

No.

Nope. There is a happy medium – not everyone wears either hot pants or a burqa.

I think it depends on what exactly a woman is wearing. If you look cheap, then (in my opinion) you look like you’re crying for attention. If you’re wearing quality clothing, then (in my opinion) you just look nice. It’s kind of like wearing a spandex mini skirt and tube top or wearing a silk skirt and a nice blouse.

How come no one ever asks these questions about male clothing choices? Any idiot who judges a woman solely on what she wears is much worse off than the woman being judged.

@Winters I know a several gals who are very confident and don’t mind showing skin and girls who wear a lot of clothes but are very insecure. I have seen that too, and the logic seem to be sound to support that those women who were very comfortable with showing that much of their body would be confident over self-conscious. They say “every girl better use what Mother nature gave her before Father Time takes it away, because once he takes it he rarely gives back”.

@Dutchess_III I think there is a difference between clothes that are cut to show nice curves and some skin on a trim woman, and the same clothes trying to be worn by a not-so-trim woman—clothes that show fat rolls instead of curves. I can see the logic in that though I am sure there are people with rotting fruit at the ready to toss at you and I. We as humans are naturally drawn to balance and symmetry. A woman could be covered neck to toe in a very clingy cats suit where no curve is left un accentuated, not even the camel toe and be sexy. That same cat suit on a woman with bulges in areas that don’t balance would not look as appealing or as sexy to more than not.

@answerjill I would note that while it is true that some women choose to wear coverings like the abaye[sic] or burkha[sic]—as do many American Muslim women, for example—there are some countries where women are forced to do so by law. As you say, those women who make the choice to wear it because they can not because they are made to, would they not have the upper hand? They control what part of them the public see; especially men. Unless a man wants to cat call on what he imagine her to be he has no real indication. If he engages her in conversation he has no real focus but her eyes. In a sense she is leaving no wiggle room for anyone who engages her to wander off in any direction.

@Facade If you look cheap, then (in my opinion) you look like you’re crying for attention. If you’re wearing quality clothing, then (in my opinion) you just look nice. It’s kind of like wearing a spandex mini skirt and tube top or wearing a silk skirt and a nice blouse. Does the amount of material or not determines if it is classy or trashy? What if it were a white mini emblazoned with thousands of Waterford Crystals and a black sheer silk top with ruffled bell sleeves and a ruffled plunging neck from the shoulders to the cusp of the belly button, mated with platform pumps with crystal accents. It would be a lot of skin showing but the clothes themselves not cheap. Would she be contour or desperate?

@psychocandy How come no one ever asks these questions about male clothing choices? Because a man dressed head to toe in a sharp suit and a trench coat would just be a man in a trench coat, if he is overweight then a fat man in a trench coat. The only way he would really stick out to any woman is if he was walking down the street lighting his cigars with rolled $100 bills. If he was in a tank top and surf shorts he would just be a slop living in his mama’s basement; still hardly any woman would notice unless he was chiseled like a Greek god and looked like a Disney prince.

I think it can be tied to self esteem. But if you really want to know how she feels about herself than look to see how high she holds her head. Some women dress very conservative and hold their heads low in public and some can dress very a bit risky and hold their heads high. Some can even wear worn out 2nd hand clothing and still how their heads high.
I think its more about how you present yourself than what you are wearing. There is also such a thing as being too over confident as well.

@Hypocrisy_Central – “Burkha” is an accepted variant transliteration of burka. See Professor Wiki: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Burqa

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