I've been diagnosed with HPV. What now?

Don’t panic. Apparently 50% of the young and sexually active population has HPV. I was diagnosed with it in my 50’s. Twice I needed some minor (in-office) cryosurgery. That is simply having a few cells in the cervix frozen.

HIgh-risk HPV means that you should pay attention, have a yearly Pap and vaginal exam, and use protection in all your sexual activities.

Keep yourself informed and up-to-date on prevention and treatment. Your doctor should have told you all this and given you written information to reread at home.

Yes she told me a brief summary about it but cuz I was in shock i couldnt think of any questions to ask her about .. I have the result in paper as well .. & I had the injection yesterday and she told me I should have another one after one month and the last one should be after 6 months .. she also told me that i should do the pap smear every year.. the problem is am getting married in 2 months.. does it mean my husband will get infected too???
as my cultral background am having an arranged marriage so telling my husband to be is not an option because that means I have had a sexual contact before which is strictly unacceptable in my religion and culture ..

While I know this sucks, at least you are a female so they can detect it and monitor it. I’m a male and I’m pretty sure I have HPV because one of my ex-girlfriends had it. But men are much less likely to show symptoms of HPV and they can only detect just a few types of it… so if I have it or not know one knows… but I have to go around my whole life thinking that I do.

Just play safe and keep your eye on it and you’ll be fine.

EDIT: I apologize I realize you didn’t actually specify you are female I just assumed based on the fact they they were able to detect it.

You might fight it off. Get retested in a year, see if it’s still there.

so my husband will get infected as well? is there anything I do about it?!

@sweet Unless you use protection, probably. However, as I understand it, it doesn’t carry the same risks for men.

@sweet: I cannot give you any moral or religious advice, but that certainly sounds very complicated.

You must discuss the issue about your husband-to-be with your doctor. She must keep whatever you say to her confidential.

@papayalily hmmm .. I can’t use protection for the rest of my life :( .. I’ve been reading about the virus since yesterday, its weekend now so I can’t go visit my doctor.. thats why I thought of posting here to see if anybody have known anybody with the HPV or know more about it ..

@sweet I’ve had it – the high risk kind. I fought it off within 6 months. No biggy. Plus, it doesn’t mean you will get cancer, it just increases your risk – same as tanning or using proper soap.

@gailcalled :: she knows that am getting married yet didn’t tell me anything regarding that .. hmmmm I know its complicated but I made a huge stupid mistake by having sex before marriage am gonna fix that mistake by faking my vigrinity.. but the virus i can do nothing about but hoping that i can fight it off ..

@sweet Yes, now I’m HPV free. I didn’t do anything – my body fought off the infection naturally, same as with my sinus infections.
Why are you marrying a guy who needs you to fake virginity? Shouldn’t you be marrying someone who accepts you for who you are?

I have known two people who have told me they had high-risk HPV. Both are married now.

I would talk to your doctor about infection potential for your husband. It sounds like you have a lot of surrounding issues to deal with considering that, so I can’t really help in terms of the personal aspects of that.

You just said that you were going to fake your virginity, and at this point I’m profoundly disturbed at how this all is going. I still can’t comment on the religious or traditional aspects of this are for you – but if you’re going to fake your virginity, then you’re not really concerned, and sorry to be harsh about it, about being honest with your husband so much as ensuring that you all are keeping up the appearances of compliance.

If it would be a huge deal that you even had sex in terms of your culture/religion, then faking your virginity and not telling him about the infection are functionally the same. Personally, I’m going to say that if he also demands rigid compliance with these moral mandates – well, I think that he deserves anything that comes along from that.

I’ll just say that infection and expression of the infection are very different. Prevalence is high because it’s something people often don’t know they have because there’s never a real outbreak of it.

@papayalily because I shouldn’t lose it in the first place as it prohibited, I have no other option . . . I regret what I have done & I wish if things didn’t go this way . now I should try to fix my mistakes not make another mistakes ..

@sweet: Did you ask the question about faking your virginity on fluther several years ago under a different user name?

Were you @designer? http://www.fluther.com/36634/how-can-i-fake-my-virginity/

Your style of writing and use of textspeak seems remarkably similar.

Simply having sex, objectively, is not a mistake. The only mistake is thinking that it is impossible to refuse to conform your life to the rules of another if those rules have no objectively clear benefit.

@sweet Why shouldn’t you have lost it? Who is prohibiting it? I don’t think not being a virgin is a flaw, but wouldn’t you rather marry a man who accepts your flaws and even enjoys them?

@jamthemob I mentioned earlier that telling him is not an option unfortunatly, my conscience is eating me alive I know what I did was wrong and lying to him is wrong but he won’t accept to marry a woman who have had sex before marriage ..

@gailcalled no I didn’t :) .. but I found this website while i was googling about faking virginity and saw her thead ..

@sweet Where do you live?

@iamthemob well now I guess there is a benifit,,, if i didn’t have sexual contact before marriage I wouldn’t be a HPV positive _” ...

@papayalily would it make a difference if you know that lool :p ..

@sweet I’m just curious – is English your first language?

@papayalily no it’s Arabic :) I live in gulf region.

@sweet Ok, so how would he even know that you have HPV? Is he getting tested for STDs? Including HPV?

@sweet: Qatar, by any chance?

” LoooL! omg hun ur so sweet… thanks for cheerin me up!” Does this sound familiar/

@papayalily we both have to be tested before marriage but for another dieseses not including this one,, cuz I asked the doctor and she told me it won’t appear in the pre-marriage test ,,, I dunno if he’s gonna know, that’s why I was asking if he will get infected ,, and am afraid that I might have other health issues after marriage and they get linked to the HPV.

@sweet – But there’s nothing to say that, had you not been raised in a manner where sexual activity needed to be secret, you would have contracted HPV – the fact that you got it is a drawback, but the more education and openness, eventually, the less that happens.

(@gailcalled – eh, it’s still useful as a discussion).

@gailcalled LoooL I swear to God its not the same person loool .. why would I lie about that ,,, it won’t harm me anyway :) .. Am from UAE

Well it is possible to get cancer without having HPV, so there’s no reason to think he would suspect. And if you aren’t having sex with him before you get married, he wouldn’t get infected until after you’re married.

I apologize.

@papayalily… hmm so he will get infected eventually :( .. is it less risky for males?

@gailcalled no problem dear :)

@sweet I don’t know that it really does anything to males…

@iamthemob It’s not that I don’t agree with the fact that I shouldn’t have sex before marriage but the lack of sex education led me to this.. It was a mistake .. as you said more openness and education the less will happen..

@papayalily so I think i’ll just pray to God that nothing bad happens to him..

Depending on the strain of HPV chances are that he will never know.. unless you tell him. You should check with your doctor and find out if the strain you have is one that shows symptoms in males.. most do not.

I can’t give you any help on your cultural issues, I’m sorry you have to go through this, but from another angle, do please be careful with your own health and NEVER neglect any of your exams. I did, and had to go through a nasty cancer experience that would have been avoided had I kept up with my exams.

@mrlaconic .. hmm okay,, u said previuosly that u have it ,, since when? & how did you know about it .. ?

@JilltheTooth thank you dear :) ... am sorry for u I hope you are better now ? I will do my best not to ,,

All better now, but it was a nasty road for awhile. Good luck to you!

@sweet I’m not sure that I have it because they can’t detect it in men. But one of my ex-girlfriends who I was with for a year told me she got it (when she cheated on me) so… how can I not have it.

@sweet you can pray to whomever you want, but if you have unprotected sex with your husband, you will pass on the HPV to him. Of course you have to make the best decisions for yourself, but lying to your husband and then infecting him with an STD without his knowledge/consent is a pretty lousy way to start off your marriage. Is it not possible to marry someone else who is accepting of who you are? Someone you can be honest with?

Hello. I have HPV too and I really do not know what to do about it. They say I just have to strenghten my immune system and have my pap from time to time. I’m worried about my bf. we’ve been together for 6 years and planning to get married and have kids but kind of bothered because we are both infected. we do not know which infected which, symptoms only showed up with me. Maybe he has a stronger immune system than I am. We just had enough of pointing fingers with who infected who, we just want to live a happy life together.