(NSFW) Are some of the things that we like in the bedroom influenced by media?

I think a lot of men under the age of thirty have grown up with readily available porn on the net, and think that’s what they’re supposed to enjoy. And the choking thing in porn is partly to show something going on, and also to give guys the fantasy of dominance that they are so big and huge she can’t take it all.

sorry to be so crude, but porn is pretty repetitive.

Well, I know what I like. Has it been influenced by Pr0n (the media I guess it would be in this case) could be, but I don’t feel as though I’m influenced now. There are things, such as your example about the chocking that I do not like. Don’t get me wrong I beyond love oral probably more than the next guy, but I don’t find this choking thing attractive at all. I’m really unsure about this subject considering I had an idea of what I liked before I actually had sex, but wasn’t really sure. This was due to finding pr0n as a wee one.

Though, I groom the shroom, because it makes me comfortable, not because it’s “the thing to do”. Even though it is the crazy, I guess, lol.

@zenvelo do you think it is more likely to be an issue among younger people?
@Axemusica so, you do think your preference may have been influenced by watching porn before you actually had sex? I LOLed at “groom the shroom.

Maybe @TheOnlyNeffie it’s hard to say. Considering I’ve since then have had quite a bit of it since that lonely day I found my dad’s playboy. So I already know what I like now, ya know?

@TheOnlyNeffie actually, I think a lot of men between 30 and 50 have a retro sexist view of women and are into a dominance thing. But younger men have the mind set because they’ve “learned” that’s what they’re supposed to like.

This is quite a generalization, and is really more of about the subset of men who view an above average amount of porn. I don’t think this applies to men who don’t watch as much, if any at all.

My answer is no, but I can only speak for myself. I like what I like because that’s who I am.

Arousal is arousal.

The acts you are describing certainly display physical arousal. If the people engaged in the act appear to be sexually aroused, then that’s two for two. And I would expect a lot of our animal brains to be activated.

Doesn’t mean we can step back and decide that it’s inappropriate and we don’t want to be part of it. But I think that is the part that’s socialization. And it’s a good thing.

I think that the media has alot to do with sexual stimulation in the bedroom…..it gives us ideas that we could try on our partners and it encourages us into sexual activity.

I think it’s possible. I’ve seen things I never would have thought of on my own, and found myself turned on by them. And no, I’m not gonna’ tell you what they were, either. :p

That’s no fun. :\

I think the trend toward having shaved genitals comes partly from the fact that our underwear is more revealing than ever before. wearing thong panties with hair sticking out would be unattractive and gross. i think we just take it to the extreme with the totally shaved thing.

as for what turns me on being influenced by the media, i think in my case it’s influenced by what i experienced when I was younger, and my fantasies about what men should be (dominant, strong).

Sure,I’m open to new ideas.
The instant an adolescent girl sees a Dallas Cowboy cheerleader do a high kick,she immediately realizes she’s not supposed to be sporting a woodchuck down there.
We take our cues from those who we think are getting some! XD

I’d say there’s a little bit of yes, but just based on discovery of the things, as @augustlan mentioned. I have seen things and though “damn that looks like fun, I wanna try it”. There have been other things that I’ve thought of on my own that I’ve never seen or even seen things like them, so for those things, the media hasn’t had an influence.

My dad taught me how to use a hammer and a saw, my mom taught me how to cook and sew….neither taught me how to please a woman. AA’s and DVD’s are my modern day mentor! ;)

@lucillelucillelucille lol!
@Seaofclouds do you think that is always the case? Just sparking new ideas? Or do you think that people who watch habitually are more heavily influenced, like @zenvelo suggested?

@TheOnlyNeffie I don’t think it’s always the case. It really depends on the individual. Some people are more easily influenced by their surroundings than other. Also, young boys and girls who don’t have actual experience with sex, watching porn probably do develop a sort of feeling/idea that what they are seeing is suppose to feel good to them. I imagine it could cause a whole lot of frustration and aggravation when they start experiencing things and it’s not what they thought it would be. I personally didn’t start watching porn of any kind until I was in my 20s, and by then I already had a good idea of what I did and didn’t like. So experience before/after viewing certain things would definitely play a role in how influential what we are seeing is.

I think @Cruiser makes a very valid point. Who’s there to show us what’s in the bedroom and what do we like? Good call.

@Axemusica people have been having sex for long before porn. I’m not saying that being influenced or inspired by pornography is bad. I’m just curious to hear other people weigh in on how much or how little they feel it has influenced some of their personal preferences.

I’m influenced by seeing the size of the equipment! Where did these guys come from? Did they regularly get stuck in vacuum cleaners when they were young?
If I was young and didn’t know better I’d feel inadequate.

I also wonder about the women in those videos. I’ve never seen one in real life. I guess fair is fair.

Most of what interests me – I mean of a non-vanilla variety – I picked up from my partners. Seeing the videos is just like watching a YouTube video on Farmville __after__ you’ve started playing Farmville. It doesn’t get you to play the game so much as it shows you how to play it well.

While I think what I have seen sometimes leads me to wonder how they came on that idea or what it is about that one would like, I can’t say it has often led me to try much of it out.