(NSFW) How can I become more than just "slightly aroused"?

Have you spoken to a doctor or specialist about this?

You are not alone. Quite a few women rarely or never reach orgasm. Most fail to enjoy it because they don’t know what sort of stimulation will work for them, but some have psychological or physiological problems that just won’t let them get there. Take a look at this and see if it helps. If not, do talk to yur doctor. Physical obstacles to adequate arousal can often be resolved through very simple procedures or even exercise routines.

Good luck finding the formula. It’s a wonderful blessing to be able to experience the unrestrained glorious release that great sex can give.

I felt like you at your age and until quite a few years older. Now I realize that I didn’t really like the man/boy I was with. He was gorgeous, though. I did not and still do not, know how to easily tell a partner what I need. This doesn’t sound like your problem, though, so are you sure you really deep down like him? not love, like.

Everyone has a little something that does it for them for me I need whomever I am with to lightly blow on / lick my ear.. I know it seems crazy but it drives me wild.

This one girl I was with needed me to bite on her nipples while she sat on my lap and bounced away… again crazy but it did the trick.

It’s not impossible so don’t give up.. the type of position may not be what you need, you may just need to get freaky.

Another thing is that the birth control you’re on could be reducing your sex drive. Maybe try a different one?

Do you take antidepressants or similar medication? I have to ask every time this question turns up.

I don’t have a solution for you, but you might want to try some of the suggestions that others have made. I just wanted to add that you’re still very young in your sexual life. Many women don’t become comfortable sexually until their 20s or later. It might just be a matter of time.
Good luck.

Two things, first of all wait till your older and second seek medical explanations.

Have you tried extending the time you spend on foreplay? If not, try making it longer until you seem to be coming to a slow boil. : )

And DO try to find a more experienced partner who will be very sensitive to your needs and responses.

As @TheOnlyNeffie has stated: many anti-depressants are well known for killing your ability to achieve orgasm.

Most women need to feel pretty attached to the guy they are having sex with in order to relax enough to achieve orgasm. There’s nothing like being super anxious about achieving one to kill your ability to actually achieve one.

The brain is often a very much underrated sexual organ, truly…

Sadly, the Pill often reduces a woman’s libido, you might like to consider trying a different brand.