What have you done to make yourself undesirable to someone whose interest you didn't return?

My mother always used to tell me ‘just tell them your legs are crooked and unshaven’ – I used to roll my eyes at her. Anyway, I wouldn’t do anything, anyhow. Maybe, I’d talk them to death.

Avoid/ignore them.

Oh I let them down gently, “back the fuck off!” Something along those lines :¬)

…why would anyone do this? I can’t imagine having to do anything like this, when all you have to do is tell them. I know that some people can be very persistent, but I’ve never even done anything like this to a stalker, let alone just some random person that has an interest that I don’t share.

Just repeatedly telling them that you aren’t interested is your best bet. If you start changing things about yourself, some of these guys will decide that they now like the “new” you (even if you thought it was something that most people would find repulsive). But you also don’t want to start changing yourself and making yourself un-desirable towards people that you do want to attract. You have to be honest with people, polite and honest. Don’t say something vague like you are too busy, because some guys will wait around until you’re not busy.

The words that have worked the best for me are:

“You’re a very nice person, but I just don’t have the same feelings for you.”

“I’m sorry, I’m just not interested.” Rinse and repeat as often as necessary.

This Italian guy I worked on a film set with wanted to take me out and said he began developing feelings for me.
I didn’t like him much at all mostly because of how he treated other people on the set. He had no manners especially in regard to how he spoke to people. That was a major turn off.
I overheard him talking to a few of his buddies about how he hated that American women, in comparison to the women from his country, would belch in public and walk around barefoot and do other “disgusting” things.
Well, I would belch around him every chance I got. He never called me again. I guess I wasn’t who he thought I was. What a fucking relief.

I didn’t wear my glasses and got my tattoos removed.

Didn’t wear any makeup or do my hair.Haha!

Why would I go throught the trouble of changing myself? I choose who I hang out with. If I don’t want to hang out, I will just not hang out with them. I am not going to change who I am becuse of who someone else is.

I have had to be what some would call a “bitch”, but I don’t think being upfront and honest is bitchy, it’s being upfront and honest. The message just has to be clear and consistent. No reason for it to get personal. It would hurt me more if someone told me that a person, who knew I was interested in them, made such an effort to thwart my affections.

I would never change myself again! I’ve adapted to men I did want and have learned to never do that again. Who I am now has been hardwrought and is not going to change For anyone. Just tell the guy nicely, persistently that you don’t feel that way. I do this right now and we stay friends.

None of the above. A bit of distance does the trick in most cases I suppose.

If a guy couldn’t handle, “I’m not interested in that way”. Then I avoided them like the plague.

Having one suicidal stalker cured me of my desire to be nice in those situations.

I guess the most applicable circumstance is one in which you have to be with someone – say a work situation. The other person may be someone you like, or even had feelings for once. It may even be someone you want something from – say camaraderie or support – but at the same time don’t want to encourage the wrong stuff.

@Seelix Tats-B-Gone? Seriously?

Do nothing! You’re not around lol….

@6rant6 – No. That was just my response to the implication that glasses and tattoos are unattractive :)

@noelleptc – I agree wholeheartedly, if I do say so myself!

I wear glasses/contacts and I have 6 tats. And I like em! So there, lol.

I didn’t real do anything to make myself undesirable to the person, I just told him to back off or I’d tell his wife.

I probably would handle it a bit differently now, not that it would happen since I’m already spoken for, but back in the day I just acted like a prick and that seemed to work (though it wasn’t so nice of me to do).