Do guys honestly want what they cant have?

It depends on the guy. A lot of guys are actually somewhat afraid to take initiative; I blame social engineering.

All guys are different, Im not the type to spend a lot of time chasing girls. I generally let them make it clear that they are interested in me before i bother pursuing it if Im interested, there has of course been a few exceptions.
It sounds like maybe this guy is playing hard to get with you, and could be waiting for you to make the first move.

I don’t know how often the truism is true that “guys want what they can’t have.” (The only cases that was true for me, were more complicated than that, and about something else.)

I think a truism much more likely to be true and useful is, “guys will take what they can get.” And/or “guys are afraid of rejection.”

In other words, it seems to me it’d be much more likely to get you together with that guy if you made some sort of invitation.

@Arbornaut I thought about that also, and It seems to me that is kinda what he is doing.

@Rayvin14 -@noelleptc Makes a good point, just go with the flow and try not to over complicate things.

In a sense that’s how everybody is male or female, but in my experience the “hard to get” angle never works.

Why don’t you ask him out for coffee (or sodas or whatever) and see how he responds?

someone mention coffee?

As a rule in my life….I don’t play games in relationships It’s not a good sign if one starts out that way

Try asking him out….clearly/directly

@coffeenut Just having a fresh brew now

your friend gave you great advise! guys do want what they can’t have. ): So here’s what i think: hug or/and flirt with other guys right in front of him to make him jealous.. BUT DON’T MAKE IT OBVIOUS ! also,you don’t want to ignore him completely.. just show him that you wont be single forever… he’s sure to make a move soon enough!
BONUS: try hanging out with him after school! if your not ready for just the two of you, get a friend to tag along!
good luck ( ;

Its a balance. Think of the term “prizability” . If your too interested you won’t give this image. If you’re too aloof he will quit. Its a balance. But in reality if you are your own person with a life indipendent of this boy this balance will work it’s self out naturally. This way you can show interest without being desparate for his attention.

To be truthfully honest, I can’t tell the difference between “playing hard to get” and “plain not interested.” I would assume the latter, and move on.

The average high school guy is not as socially tuned in as high school girls would like to think they are. Direct is usual a better less frustrating

Is there a valentine’s dance at school? Concert that you want to see? Ask him to go with you. Or start by paying him a few honest compliments, like “I like hanging out with you” or “I had no idea you were such a great guy.”

Simple check: stare at him intently and see if he cracks. Not completely reliable but a good place to start.

Guys/people that have or can have what they want sometimes want what they shouldn’t want instead. It’s not the same, it’s just looking for challenges. The only way to keep the described kind of guy/person interested is to be mutually obsessed. But maybe he’s just not interested, and guys avoid social badness so he won’t tell you until confront him. Or he’s oblivious and you should still just confront him.

Try your best and don’t look back. That’s pretty much it, good luck.

Honestly I do think it depends on the guy but I believe a lot of people always want what they can’t seem to have. .I think its a matter of value.
How many people for instant will see and identical knock off bag of a designer bag and then see the expensive designer bag and even if they can’t afford the designer bag will not settle for the knock off. I think people are seen the same way. Some girls seem more desirable if she seems off limits.My daughter for example dated a few guys and everytime she was really interested than they suddenly became uninterested. Your a nice girl butttttt! Now the moment she started to behave like Queen and not just a regular girl, than things got interesting. Suddenly two guys who thought they wouldn’t have a chance in hell with her were working hard to get her attention. Of course it also has a lot to do with self confidence as well. But now she is dating this one guy who is over the moon to be with her.
Of course there will always be those guys who don’t want the very confident woman because they feel they don’t measure up. I once had a guy actually tell me that he liked me and admired me but he said he would always feel unequal to me. I thought it was a shame because I thought he was great the way he was, but his lack of confidence would destroy any hope of a real relationship developing between us.
My husband ignored everyone who told him he was out of my league. That told me he didn’t undersell himself at all.

If he doesn’t already know that you are super interested-make sure he knows that, then move on to better guys, and better things. Make sure that you are happy with your decision, and over time, I think he will soon eventually compete for your attention.

Absolute statements such as “people want what they can’t have” should always be taken with a pinch (or in many cases, a bucket load) of salt. If someone told you there was a rubiks cube in Papua New Guinea and you’re never allowed to own it, because he’s an eccentric billionaire and does this kinda stuff, would that bother you? Unlikely, as you were never interested in that rubiks cube in the first place. Similarly, if this guy’s not attracted to you now, playing ‘hard to get’ will make little difference to the situation. If anything he may even perceive you as arrogant for acting as though you’re above him with seemingly no provocation.

Even presuming him to be interested, what will playing hard to get do other than confuse the matter? If you play hard to get and he maybe smiles at you one day and then frowns the next what will that tell you? Whereas if you simply ask him out for drinks or propose a meeting that is clearly intended to be intimate and he agrees you’ve learnt something new about the situation and can act on it accordingly.

Minimise the potential outcomes, bypass the confusion and ask him out directly. And should you be rejected, get some friends round, a tub of ice cream and watch Titanic while yelling about how Leonardo Di Caprio is a liar for claiming to love her.

I’ll second what @Nullo said – a lot of guys are afraid of rejection and don’t want to make the first move.

@noelleptc . im 14.. why ?

@noelleptc… im pretty sure there is a reason, so you should just say it..

Yes, but don’t play hard to get, if you play it too hard the guy will think you have no interest in him. You won’t be someone he can’t have, you’ll be someone he considers a friend.

well im pretty sure @Rayvin14 is around my age… i think she may prefer advise from me than a 40 year old. but i dont know her… thats just what i think @noelleptc .

i wasnt talking about you.

@julietxx3 dont you think 40 year olds have some perspective from living a while. Your statement above almost sounds of contempt for older people.

@Season_of_Fall .. your completely right but kids are different now than they were when some of you were 14 or 15.. so maybe since i am this age i can give her advise from what i know now.. not from over 20 years ago.. but i didnt mean it to sound like that sorrry

@Julietxx3, I’ve seen your answers before and I think you have a lot of wisdom for your age. Was going to be disappointed if mine had no value in your opinion, but I’m glad I was wrong. Sometimes when people young as yourself write a question if they have any preference as to what age group they get their advice.

@Season_of_Fall haha no i can see were i was wrong i should have said it differently . but thank you because if you wouldnt have said anything people would have thought what you were thinking.. not knowing that thats not how i meant it at all. ( :

i do.