Have you ever felt rage?
I mean a gut wrenching anger so strong you could knock somebody’s teeth out. What did it feel like? Were you sweating? Did your eyes bulge out? Did you turn red in the face?
How did you calm yourself down?
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In my occupation, thank God i know how to count to 100. a cops job is filled with rage. its how its controlled is whats important.
All inhibitions went out the window and I beat the piece of filth to a bloody pulp. Then I felt better as he lay there twitching the disgusting, manipulative, abusive, sly snake.
Yes.
Went for a walk or paced.
Yes I have, just on one occasion as I remember. There was steam coming out of my ears not literally of course
When I am angry I speak very quietly and calmly, but underneath my stomach is turning over.
Then I cuddle my dogs to calm myself.
Yeah, I got so angry once I literally saw nothing white before my eyes for a moment, then went to the manager of the restaurant where I was working at the time and gently asked him to handle the customer before I punched her in the throat. Then I went outside and had a smoke (which I no longer do).
It was the “gentle” bit that the manager responded to; he knew I’d hurt that lady, and to hell with who was watching.
Yes…..depending on why you’re raging calming down isn’t always an option but ya it didn’t end well.
@coffeenut : Judging by your profile picture, I’d be leery of getting into a fight of any kind with you. ;)
Why yes,I have….I just wore myself out like a tantrum-throwing 2 year old at the mall XD
@lucillelucillelucille !! For you, that might not be rage. That might be an expression of joy at your successful return!
It’s good to see you here. Really good.
I have experienced it when it was uncontrollable, in my son and my first husband.
From my perspective, the best way to describe it is that it looks like a demon possession. It is very scarry.
Sad thing is, that when they do this, they feel better while the rest of us stand around like we have just been vomited on.
Yes. My face and neck turn red, my hands get really cold and begin to shake and sometimes I cry.
@hawaii_jake Thank you! Not much could make me mad right now! :))
Oh yeah, I get full of rage – I deal with it by being an activist, by standing up for myself and others, by yelling at people, by making change happen, by protesting, by writing about it, by spreading the word, by getting people involved.
When I was a senior in high school, my best friend’s ex-boyfriend beat her up. He later told me if he had it to do over again, he would’ve hit her harder. I experienced tunnel vision and broke his nose.
Not since I got a divorce 8 years ago.
My ex husband was the only person to ever make me feel like I could kill someone. lol
My life is rage and drama free these days, and, that’s the way I like it!
Infact, things have been so peaceful for so long now, I think I actually look YOUNGER at 50 than I did at 35! Nothing like peace to erase stress wrinkles! lol
You really don’t look 50.
A couple of times I’ve not been just angry, but so full of rage I could have beaten someone with my bare hands and taken delight as I shot them in places to make them suffer a long and painful death. A 4-year-old ,who is now my adopted grownup daughter, was beaten within an inch of her life by a man because she wouldn’t eat her greenbeans. Her mother was laid out drunk on a couch. When I saw her after the fact, I was full of rage.
I once was enraged at a guy who betrayed my trust. I bitterly visualized his severed head being washed down the street gutter. How DARE he! Time and good sense took away the anger. I don’t think I’ve felt that way since.
I did forget chasing the deer that ate my garden a few years ago. Running barefoot through the weeds screaming at them!
Like THAT was going to matter! haha
So then I rigged an electric fence that basically just allowed me to shock myself every morning.
Lean over the hotwire with a cup of coffee to pick a flower and zap myself in a damp armpit, fling coffee across the yard.
I know they were watching and laughing, little bastards!
My life is a farside cartoon.
Everyone has at some point. It’s part of being human. How you handle it is where it counts, as @john65pennington pointed out.
That said, I don’t remember the last time I actually felt a visceral rage. I’ve been extremely frustrated, certainly, and angry before, but ever since I got over my severe anxiety and depression issues I had back in high school and before, I’ve been about as chill as chill gets in person.
Like an implacable and all consuming inferno, but generally amidst it all, there is something akin to the eye of the storm. so fortunately, i have no lingering regrets, but temper tantrums are nothing to boast about, they are lonely, selfish experiences.
I recall having an argument over the phone with my fathers (at the time) girlfriend. We were living there, blah blah blah…. I don’t remember what the argument was about. I do remember that she wasn’t the brightest star or would I have considered her a star, but she was ridiculously stubborn.
During the argument on the phone I noticed the stubbornness and due to her lack of understanding it through me into a fit of rage. I don’t remember much of how and why this phone call happened, but I do remember snapping at one point and I recall my voice never sounding more bad ass (what? It was an awesome metal voice) and scary at the same time. I remember I said something to her in this demonic tone and she responded with something that further enraged me. That was when I throw the phone through the wall. Yes, Literally, through the wall.
I eventually calmed down since I was the only one home and the phone was broken.
Just thinking about it kind of upsets me, lol.
Nobody drove me to rage, I allowed myself to be sucked in and reacted with my own rage. To blame someone else for my behavior is counterproductive.
I do try to avoid situations and people whom I allow to awaken those feelings in me, but if I have to face them, I prepare myself, know what is going to happen and be ready to quell the feelings as quickly as they arise.
@john65pennington – said it very well, and I would add, the only person I can control is me so I must stop wasting time lamenting the behavior of others and blaming them for my behavior and instead just simply control me, then all will be well.
Never. I’ve felt frustrated, upset, highly annoyed, but I can’t remember ever being actually angry. It’s bizarre, I just don’t get that feeling.
I have a couple of times . . . I felt very tight if that makes sense. my whole body was struggling to keep it all in and my eyes were scrunched up, my hands in fists and my brow was furrowed. . . I really don’t know how I stopped trembling but it was scary to know that something could make me soo angry. phew.
As a critic of our very culture and way of life, and in particular the hierarchal power structures that maintain it through the constant and widespread application of violence, rage is my constant companion.
@incendiary_dan can I use that in a song? seriously that was worded awesomely!
@Axemusica If I get a nod in the credits or cd jacket or whatever, you can use it all you like.
Oh yea, all my emails are signed “With love and rage, Dan”. Can’t believe I forgot that part.
Meh. Most rage/anger is all about unhealed wounds and maturity.
Most ‘normal’ people outgrow their childish anger as they mature. Some don’t.
I am hardly perfect, but, in my maturity I simply will not deal with emotionally immature peeps.
Everyone can have a moment now and then, but those that run hot & cold and are chronically moody…stay away. lol
Emotional consistency is a good barometer of ones overall psychic health.
@Coloma Or, you know, some people have legitimate reasons to be pissed off about the many injustices in the world.
I’ve been so angry at my brother before that all I wanted to do was smash his computer and destroy it (I was always more of a “break an object of someone’s” rather than “break their nose” person when it came to fighting). But that’s about it for real life. I’ve been equally as angry at people on the internet, though, to the point where I just pulled out the worst low-blow soul-crushing insult I could come up with.
Yes. It scared me really bad. I heard a roaring in my ears, couldn’t hear anything else. I clawed my leg bloody without remembering it, and imagined the target with 47 stab marks in him. I never want to feel that again, because now I understand the “overkill” in some people.
Yes but it’s rare. If it happens, it usually involves damage to something. I’ve twice broken doors in my home because of it.
@incendiary_dan
Not really. Nobody can bear the weight of the world.
Chronic issues with the way of the world is unhealthy and neurotic.
Take care of yourself and do what you can do.
Nobody is an army of one, you’re just setting yourself up for a lot of misery.
@Coloma I respectfully disagree. I consider that just evasion and denial.
@incendiary_dan
No. It’s called reality. Do what you can and forget the rest.
Has there ever been a human being that solved all of the worlds problems. No,
Not Jesus, not Ghandi, not Mother Theresa.
Maturity, mentally, emotionally and spiritually knows that the best one can do is heal themselves and spread as much good will as possible.
Being as martyr gets you burned at the stake.
Before you can weep for the world you must weep for yourself, otherwise you are just co-dependent. Weeping for your own unresolved wounds that are reflected in the way of the world.
@Coloma I’m not talking about being a martyr, and your being disengenuous by using a straw man argument. I’m talking about feeling rage. It doesn’t matter what I can or can’t do about it.
I have felt rage at either being physically hurt or emotionally hurt. Real rage is extremely hard to control. I could actually feel so much rage that I don’t physically feel pain. I’m sure that has to do with andrenoline running though your body giving you a flight or fight response.
It can be a useful survival tool or something that devastates your life if you let it. People hate to admit it exist in them but I think if you push anyones buttons just the right way, you can get just about anyone in a rage. I had a cousin once who was as timid as a mouse. When her ex tried to take her kids away another woman stepped in her shoes and she was enraged.
I think in any moment of rage there is a moment when you ask yourself what should you do and whether your rage is helping you out. At that moment you can decide to pull yourself back to sanity. Of course if you never grew up in a sane enviroment I would think it is a hard thing to learn. Luckily for me I had good examples of the type of person I wanted to be.
9/11. I still feel it. I hope someday I get the chance to assuage it.
@Pandora I think part of the definition of rage is being somewhat out of control. If you can control it, it ain’t rage. You may not act on it. It may not last long. But if you are able to think at that moment of anything but the rage, you’re already coming out of it. And, of course, that’s good. For everybody concerned.
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