What is one....out of many i'm sure.... major quality you look for in a s/o?

I’d say that the most important thing about them be that they are such that we can easily have good conversations.
However, that’s probably just because I’m an awkward nerd.

Steadfastness

Honesty, give it and need it.

genuinely caring

I swear this question gets asked every two weeks.

Still the same answer.. I need a Star Wars fan.

I suppose I’d have to say “compatibility.” Lots of things are great to have, but if you’re not compatible, the entire relationship is on shaky ground.

I think that not only in this kind of relationship but other ones too, RESPECTING the other is the key. without that a lot can go wrong.

Honesty! Numero Uno!....and then a set of really nice looking arms/shoulders/hands…must be manly

A touch of insanity to balance mine, of course.

@rangerr I suspect it’s probably more like every two days or so. Still, not to worry, i’m certainly not.

She must have been a female from birth you never know these days

A great sense of humor.

The ability to make me laugh (which is different imho from a sense of humor because you must be able to make jokes, not just laugh at other’s jokes). I’ve struggled with depression my whole life, so laughing is extra important to me – and can make dealing with disputes over which way the toilet paper goes soooo much easier!

A shaved head.

Just kidding. ;)
Sense of humor. Definitely. Very much in the “make me laugh” kind of way that @papayalily described.

Intellectual or otherwise stimulating conversation. Without that, I bore of people quite quickly.

Me. I like to find me in a significant other. Meant as both a pun >:) and serious. Not in the every thing is about me type of finding myself in them, but just being on their mind. It’s nice to see a random text or phone call just hear them say they were thinking about you and such. It’s a nice feeling. :)

intelligent sense of humor

compatibility

“Compatibility” is a catch-all that means “we have a great number of things in common,” which seems a bit against what the question was about, so I’m not going to mention it. Of course we have to be compatible: but the one thing that dictates compatibility above all other things? Similar views on gender and sexuality. Ok, so that’s two things. Sue me.

kindness

shared values

Mutual respect.

Similar interests/values. But not all the same, I’d want my s/o to have different qualities that would keep things fresh.

Thanks all, good stuff! Although I see @rangerr & “the joy joy club” seem popular. You star wars nerds are such a riot!

Being an adult. Which encompasses a lot of things, mostly maturity, being responsible, and being… mature and responsible, lol.

Integrity

stardust Great answer…..it encompasses so many things. It’s funny but I remember telling a friend about my husband, when we first met, “he’s a man of integrity” and how I was falling in love with him already and thought he might be the one. Maybe just intuition but he has borne it out. And what’s strange is that I never before that put my assessment of somebody in that way. The word integrity just seemed best to describe what set him apart.

Strength. Strength of character, the strength to be able to recognise, and steer a course for me out of one of my “lows” when they hit. Sometimes that just means wrapping his arms round me when I need him to, or staying up all night and listening because my head is rushing with thoughts and I can’t make them stop, and I need to get them out. Or sitting on the edge of our bed hugging me because my arthritis is trying to turn me into a human pretzel and the pain meds aren’t helping. I cope because of his strength, because I know he’s there and he loves me no matter what.

@stardust and @Earthgirl well said and GA. Integrity is a wonderful word, and certainly doesn’t apply to just anyone. If you can add kindness, gentleness and empathy to the package you’re on to a winner, which it sounds as if you are @Earthgirl. Me too, thankfully. When I met hubby, we were only friends for quite a while, but we agreed on so many things. We’d both had quite an “old fashioned” upbringing, so our core values were pretty much the same. He “gets” my slightly odd, deadpan sense of humour, and so often he knows what kind of mood I’m in before I do. He really is my “other half”.

Intelligence is a big one. At least average looking. I do not like crude men who are off color and I can’t stand macho men. I don’t like boarish behavior. It disgusts me.

He should like intellectual things and be a kind person. I would want him to at least be a couple of inches taller than me (I am 5’4) and preferably at least 5 inches taller although I am not picky. Ideally, he would have dark hair but I adapt if the person is worth it. I don’t like beards unless they are very closely cut and groomed. No white beards. No red suits.

He can’t use expressions like “Just sayin” or “It isn’t rocket science” or “Your point is?” LOl.

Sense of humour.
I like tall, dark haired, strong men. Someone that won’t be a pushover and can take charge.