Friendship trouble help?

I personally dont have time for people and thier drama. I think its negative energy and I dont like to be around it. I would just tell her once how I feel, explain to her I dont have time for the drama and if she doesnt like it she can move onto someone else. Then if it happens again, cut all ties with her.

@Baddreamer27 Good idea, but i’ve done this before and she keeps coming back. And tomorrow I’m getting together with all my friends and I don’t want any negative energy.

Thats what Im saying…Ignore the “she keeps coming back” be friends with her at face value. Cordial for the sake of getting along and not having negative energy, but people like that feed off of the drama they cause others. She wants you to feel like you do, So dont indulge her.

@Baddreamer27 So basically, I act boring so she won’t have any drama with me?

I suppose that is one way you could handle it.

Some people love to be in the center of drama; it makes them feel popular, and in control. This does become less and less as people get a little older (although there are some aged drama queens out there.) It’s very hard not to think that you can win with people who create the vortex of this chaos.

One tactic is to not take the bait, burst out laughing, and tell her she should really consider writing, because the stories she makes up are almost believable.

Or you can change the topic and talk about things besides people. There’s a great Eleanor Roosevelt quote: “Great minds talk about ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds talk about people.”

If her drama is causing you to lose friends, they were probably not friends to begin with, but just people you go to school with, classmates.

Shes emotionally unstable. Let her go.

Real ‘friends’ don’t enjoy causing drama for other friends.

@BarnacleBill

Oh yes there are, I just let go of a 54 yr. old drama queen. My God!

Well if this is the way she is I’m surprised your other friends would take her seriously and go against you knowing that she’s always causing drama. Get yourself some new friends.. ones that fit your lifestyle and personality better… free yourself from the drama.. no need for that bs.

BarnacleBill is totally right, i was going to say just ‘thank her’ everytime she says something confronting or annoying just thank her as if she’s given you a compliment – she will hate it to start but then will find it boring so will venture to someone who feels that they deserve to treated that way… not saying you did, but it’s our insecurity that makes us feel like we have to give to people like that… but yeah BarnacleBil… great answer!

@kheredia, I would’ve gotten new friends a looong time ago, but I live in a super-small town and only 8 girls in my grade.

@lov3xDrnk I never did have much use for useless friend when I was in high school. I just did my own thing and managed fine. Plenty of years ahead to do things with people of genuine character. I didn’t grow up in a tiny town but I still didn’t really have girl friends in high school. Hang out with the guys, they make great friends as well. In time your other friends will get tired of her crap as she turns her attention to them.
Just avoid them all and make some guy friends or just hang with family till they all had enough.

The truth has stood the test of time. and, the truth will set you free.

Tell her.

Tell her that you know where she is coming from and clear the air.

Fool me once, shame on you.

Fool me twice, shame on me.

There shouldn’t be a third time. If she’s that shitty a friend, don’t let her back in your life until (if) she manages to grow up.

Yeah, that would make it difficult to make new friends.. I guess you’re kind of stuck then girl.. just ignore the drama then.. don’t let her feed on it.. if you don’t give it any importance then she’s bound to just let it go.

Honestly I think that that should not be a friend that you should be hanging around. There is too much negative energy coming from that person and you should try being friends with someone who would not start a drama with you.

It sounds like you can’t totally get away from her, because she is friends with some of your other friends. All you can do, as some others have said, is don’t feed the drama. It’s tricky, because if she thinks you are avoiding her she will get offended and create drama about that, and your shared friendships might suffer.

I think that you have to give her a little energy, but only keep it really positive. Don’t ever tell her anything personal about you, but let her feel a little connected to you, and by all means make her feel like you like her. Try not to spend any more time with her than you absolutely have to, and once again, NEVER GIVE HER ANY AMMO!