Have you ever hated yourself? or felt like you don't love yourself anymore? Why was it? How did you overcome it?

Disappointed? Sure. Hatred? Never. The question begs another question. How do you get into that position?

I hated myself for not doing well as others. When I was in regular school I always thought of it as a competiton. I failed pretty bad, but I bought myself up when testing at the end of the year came. I overcame my problem by going into a Charter school and I’m improving—I just hope I graduate! I’m trying very hard!

I am full of self loathing. I feel like I had so much potential, and just wasted it. I made a couple bad choices, and blew it. It’s easy to embrace self loathing when you don’t have any secrets from yourself, and you don’t delude yourself on your mistakes.

During most of my childhood, I thought something was wrong with me. It was partly because I didn’t feel the spirit of God like the rest of my family and because the kids at school teased me a lot. It wasn’t until I became an adult that I was able to handle being different from other people.

No I have never hated myself but highly uncomfortable with myself due to what I allowed people to do. I have felt like I was too ugly for anyone to care about at times. My self esteem has improved.

I have absolutely no self esteem. All I see is the bad about me. I was horribly teased in grade school and middle school. It didn’t help when my grandma would constantly tell me that I was fat, even when I was anorexic. Now I’m totally opposite and very obese. I don’t really see a way out of this cycle. There you go my honest gripe for the day.

@josie Out of guilt of cheating yourself of something. Something similar to what @filmfann stated.

I am not sure about this drama, sorry.

SSRIs

@Rarebear why so?

Depression and anxiety symptoms years ago. Low dose SSRI worked like a charm.

Have totally hated myself for being drunk in the past. Nothing terrible ever happened, but it might have.

I endure this battle with self-hatred. I am much further down the road now than I was three years ago, thanks to some pretty heavy counselling. It originates in childhood from being abused and was reinforced by more abuse. But I am learning that my attitude to myself is paramount in healing myself. Learning to listen to what I am feeling without judgement, but with love and compassion is key, although not very easy a lot of time.

I find myself caught in a web of destructive emotions about other emotions and having emotions about past memories which affect how I feel in the present day. I have to appeal to a higher self…my inner-parent if you will, to get me out of it…. sometimes though I just have to sit with the way I feel.

I think ultimately this happens because I have been taught that I am selfish and should think about others more and because of the rebellious things I have done in my life, and some distasteful things I have done…all that stuff needs forgiveness and understanding too…from myself. Tis not an easy road to tread…. and I feel it will be a lifelong commitment.

Oh my, yes. If only I were XYZ, I’d be a better person. I felt so guilty over my ‘failings’, that I was pretty damn miserable for much of my adult life. Therapy helped me immensely. I learned that I am not a horrible mother/wife/human being. I’m finally able to accept and even like who I am. I truly hope those of you who are suffering with this presently will get to that point a lot quicker than I did. It’s such a huge relief!

@augustlan Did you have a moment of epiphany; did it dawn on you one day or did it come gradually? How do you know you’re there? Sometimes I feel like I am and other times I don’t…I seem to take two steps forward and three steps back then four steps forward and two steps back…

@nebule It was a gradual process, over about two years worth of therapy. I still backslide sometimes, but it’s not my default position anymore.

That’s where I’d like to get to…where loving myself is the default position…I think I’m getting there slowly…:-)