Do you have any things you do with your S/O to help keep your relationship connected and fresh, like giving each other massages on a regular basis?
i was reading Dear Abby last night and I came across a letter from a reader whose relationship with her hubby had become a little stale. They were discussing the relationship one night after the kids were in bed, and he asked her if she’d like a massage. She liked the idea, so they now incorporate it on a regular basis. After the kids are in bed, four or five times a week, the TV gets turned off, they go into their bedroom, and they both strip and give each other a long massage. They might talk, they might not, but they just enjoy the sensations for awhile. After they’re done, they sometimes make love, sometimes just hold each other, whatever. It sounded like a nice way to stay in tune with your partner. Do you have any other ways to stay in tune with each other?
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We must be doing something right. We just celebrated our 45th wedding anniversary.
Here is what an “older” couple does to keep the fires burning: once a month, I will decide on the location we are going to spend the night. I decide one month, she decides the next. We never disclose our “secret location”, until we actually hit the road. We have limitations. Our secret location has to be within 100 miles of home and it has to be paid in full by the reserving party.
It may sound simple, but it works. We both look forward to the end of the month, when it’s time for us to take off to places unknown.
It’ll be three years this March, and we still act giddy and get butterflies when with/talking to each other. Especially, if we haven’t seen each other in, say, a week. :)
Following this thread. I find it interesting and I’m big on romance.
Today is our 37th wedding anniversary! We must also be doing something right; when I figure out what it is, I will let you in on the secret.
janbb, do you realize that you and your hubby and I and my wife are the exception to the rule in long marriages? I am patting you on your shoulder and you can pat mine. Yes, we must be doing something right. Congrats to you guys!
@john65pennington Superb answer I give you lurve and will start the practice with my own wife of 17 years.
Apart from lots of sex?
We go on lots of road trips.
We do boring stuff together as well as the fun stuff, we appreciate the time together rather than making it about the activity.
We lie in bed listening to music and laughing.
Every few weeks we (I) make a ‘special’ meal.
We dress up in our finest, dim the lights, candles around the room, wine on the table, and eat a three or four course meal together.
No interruptions, lots of chatting and flirting. Just the two of us together.
Such a lovely evening.
Cooking together can be very sensual and brings you closer together.
Laying in bed with the windows open, listening to the rain. Very romantic. Leads to love making.
Taking you chances here, but, going for a drive along an old country road and stopping and visiting an abandoned barn. Have fabulous sex in the abandoned barn.
If he or she is an artist, have them draw you nude. Or, if you’re the artist, draw them, feed them wine and grapes, then ravish them.
We never feel disconnected from one another. We’ve been together for about 4 years now. But it helps to do things without the kids like hip hop classes or our freegan trips or being involved together in an organization.
We try to have dates at least once or twice a month (depending on what’s going on). It could be a lunch date or a nice dinner date, but whatever it is, it’s just us. No talking about children, work, bills, or anything like that. We just enjoy each others company and whatever we are doing together.
In addition to that, we eat dinner together every night at the table as a family. We also try to have family game nights several times a month. We also talk a lot about anything and everything. We are honest with each other and if either one of us feels like we need something, we let the other know.
I ask him every now and then if he is happy with us. That way he has the opportunity to speak up if he isn’t.
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