(NSFW) During penetration, is it true that if you're relaxed enough and turned on enough, the cervix will push back, thus, causing penetration to be less painful?

That would have to be one huge guy to be hitting your cervix, or you’d be an awfully small woman. Penetration is deeper when a women is entered from behind and her hips are raised. It’s more common to feel a bit of pain ‘up there’ with this position. Or at his hardest thrusts, but there should be a position or a way of doing it so you don’t hurt and he’s still satisfied. If it is hitting your cervix and it’s painful, it could be because you have an infection. Most women just feel a sense of pressure, but not pain. When was the last time you saw a doctor or gyno?

Are you positive it’s pain caused from reaching the cervix? Have a read of this and see if something doesn’t ring a bell.

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/painfulintercourse.htm

I think when one is turned on, everything is easier. I’m not sure if it’s factual, what you say, but it works for me.

I’m thinking a cyst on my left ovary. I know that positioning (and angle helps).

The being turned on bit wasn’t an issue.

Do you have painful periods?

No. Although, I am pretty sure that I am perimenopausal. Mine only last for three days tops and aren’t heavy nor that painful.

The pain has never been an issue before (penetration).

It is not terrible pain, but, I do feel it hitting something.

I have had cysts on my ovaries and I know when they are bursting is when they are the most painful and sex during that time is painful, actually movement, urinating, and having a BM is all painful during a cyst rupture.

Are you ovulating? Do you know? Because… I had an egg that went a bit awol once. It left the ovaries and didn’t go down the tubes. It landed outside my reproductive system and my body, of course, treated it like a foreign body and created a bit of an ‘immune system’ party around it. The pain went away after a while, but it sure did hurt. But it was like you mention, if he hit in one spot, or was too deep, there was pain.

Cysts on your ovaries is a serious business, as @JustJessica said. It runs in my family. I’m glad I didn’t get it, but two sisters and two nieces are afflicted. I know the stories. Yours doesn’t sound like it.

If this persists, see your doctor, in the meantime, explain things to him, be honest and comfortable during sex. It shouldn’t hurt.

If you and your partner are pretty much doing things the same way you always have, and the pain the with penetration is something new, if it has never been an issue before, I really think you should see your gynecologist about it rather than try to find a work around, at least you to be sure that there’s nothing wrong. Pain is a message and it’s probably a good idea to find out what the message might be. Just my opinion.

If this has always been a problem, you may have a retroverted uterus. I had one, and it was a bit of a bitch during penetration, OB/GYN visits, and during pregnancies.

Like @Simone_De_Beauvoir said, when you are turned on, the vagina opens up and penetration is easier then. Same goes with the ass during anal. It is for this reason that foreplay is important. I never heard of the cervix pushing back or anything like that.

@Jude It’s pure mechanics. If you’re trying to put a seven inch object into a six inch receptacle, it’s going to hit bottom. I’ve done this a bunch of times with a small woman. I can tell by the feel and the immediate gasp of pain from her. And the excitement level doesn’t matter and even makes it more likely to happen because she’s thrusting back. The guy (?) just needs to be more careful and not go as deep.

@Adirondackwannabe I hear ya. I’m tiny, but, she (the SO) needs to take it easy on me.

@Jude My girl’s 5’1”. There’s only so much room. Go with something a little shorter, it’s more about the girth anyway.

well, now I feel like an idiot. Your lover is a woman with a tool…. hmmm… the answer seems very simple.