What do I do about a girl that seems interested in me?

You learn to be in a relationship the way everyone else did: one day at a time. Sometimes it’s one breath at a time.

The first thing you do is talk about what the other person expects from the relationship and your expectations, too.

Good luck. Enjoy!

@hawaii_jake That’s the thing though, I have bottled up my emotions over the years and am a very cold person ingeneral, I am also not good with being social. The closes thing I had to a social life was my job. This whole thing makes no sense, and I don’t even see the point of being in a relationship. “love” is just a hormone releave to encourage reproduction and the survival of the species. All of this is just… bah

Communication is the most important thing in any relationship. You need to be as open and sharing as possible.

Be honest about yourself with this person, and then take it one day at a time. This person may see something in you that you don’t see in yourself. Perhaps they find you the antithesis of an needy person and that’s appealing to them. It’s okay to be antisocial, aloof, and cool. Just don’t be deliberately mean or cruel.

Are you interested in pursuing a relationship with this person?

Aren’t you kind of jumping the gun here? From your description, it sounds like you’ve had precisely one conversation about a relationship, and in that conversation, nothing direct was said. How long have you been chatting with her on Facebook?

Also, it sounds like the thing you are most enamored about with her is that she likes you.How much do you know anything about her? Just her Facebook info? Have you done any research on her at all?

The thing to do, I think, is to see how it plays out. I think you should let her take the lead. She may or may not have a boyfriend (what’s her relationship status?). You can’t be sure, at this point of the game, of how serious she is, especially since she hasn’t directly said that she likes you.

It’s exciting to have someone interested in you. Especially if you’ve been on your ownsome for a while. Don’t let the novelty make you believe it is more than it is. It’s easy to go off the deep end. Hold back. Don’t drag behind or kick in your heels, but also don’t take up the slack in the rope. Easy does it. Don’t get too excited until you know more about what she really thinks and feels.

How do you know this is not a male hitting on you?

I would ask her if she’d like to discuss this more over lunch (your treat). Tell her you want to know more about the “mysterious admirer”. Be open and interested in what she has to say. And (if you are interested in pursuing this) say you’re intrigued but not sure how to proceed.

@wundayatta Based on what she says I am not jumping the gun. I have not seen\heard anything of her having a boyfriend in any of her status updates or on her profile stuff, we are fairly good friends at school but I had not picked up any hints, although she did talk to me much more than anyone else. She is a great person, and quite atteactive, but the whole relationship is just wierd to me.

@SuperMouse I’m not sure, I have never been able to imagine myself in a relationship, it’s always an aquard though. I’m the type of person who is practically a complete outcast, and I never let anyone in.

@BarnacleBill I’m more the “loser” antisocial type. I never had anyone I could relate to untill I was in grade 5, and I have never been to a party, or out gaming or anything like that.

@john65pennington I know her from school.

I’m exactly the same way (sort of). I’m not really a social person, so relationships can be kind of tricky. I find the best way is to be as straight as you can about everything no matter how awkward it may be. Ask her if she has a boyfriend. If she doesn’t and you think you’re interested, then ask her out. If she’s serious about there being “a friend” that likes you, inquire about that. Be honest. Be confident. Just take things one step at a time. @wundayatta offers some good advice as well. If you’re just not comfortable with confronting her, you could just follow her lead and let things play out.

Well she said she did, but like I said she said the “mystery person” was more interested in me, and the boyfriend seemed to be very lacking when she talked about him, almost no information whatsoever.

Well be careful. She might actually have a boyfriend and this mystery person might be someone worth pursuing. The only way of knowing for sure is if you talk to her and are clear with how you feel and you get clarification perhaps on what’s really going on.

Do you like her? Do you want to try on a relationship?

@Ellis1919 I agree, some investigation is in order.

@Jeruba She is a great person, it’s just that a relationship is so foriegn to me, I have no clue about any of it. Like I said before a relationship seems pointless to me, but yet many people find some type of value in them. I don’t know, it’s all really wierd.

I’d be cautious if I were you. I don’t quite like the sound of this.

How so? do you think it might be a trick of some kind? She doesn’t seem like the type to do that, but I am keeping that in mind. Who knows, this whole thing will probably settle down with nothing having been changed.

X0II0 why not just give it a go? Talk to this lady – be honest about how you are feeling. Tell her you feel a bit unsure of how to progress. If she has known you for years she probably has a good idea about the type of person you are and your personality. Take it a day at a time and when (if) you start to feel nervous/anxious about what is happening – take a little time to centre yourself. I think I said this somewhere else in a post – but if you find it hard to say the things you are feeling out loud – in person or on the phone – type them. Put it in writing. This could be the start of something fabulous. It equally might not be but you won’t know if you don’t let things play out. What is the worst that could happen?

We have talked about my opinion of relationships in decent depth, I’ll just see what happens tommorow.

I agree with @wundayatta I’d see how things play out. Do you mind me asking what age both of you are? If you feel you want to pursue something with this girl, then maybe have a chat with her. It sunds as though she hasn’t directly said she wants to date you yet, so it might be helpful to get some clarity about what she wants. As others have mentioned, what you want is also important.

We are both 16, however this situation has defused. I don’t know what brought this whole thing up, but I asked if she went through anything rough with her bf because she might be emotionally confised, but she said everything was fine no sign of one in her life on facebook, IE: her relationship status, not that I care about facebook crap. This was just one of those wierd things that I don’t think will lead to anything. She still says hi on chat a lot, but everything else has settle down. Whatever the hell this was, I’ll never know.

@XOIIO Well I’ve no doubt that you’ll meet a nice girl down the line. She sounds like the confused one :/ Good luck :)

I don’t need or want to meet “the right person”, and I highly doubt that there is such a person.

Try to start as brother and sister. Give each other hugs but not full hugs just side hugs. Then ease up to her and ask her if she wants to see a movie “as friends”. Then when she really hangs out with you ask her out to dinner or something.

@XOIIO if you’re 16, there’s no need to make such global statements as you did just above. You may change your mind a lot sooner than you anticipate.

Is my answer good? That’s how my boyfriend and I met.