This past summer I was sitting in the pizzeeria alone having lunch. I notice a young 20ish guy walking towards my table. The thing that struck me was that he was unusually well dressed for the neighborhood we were in. I say well dressed, but in this case, I really mean neatly dressed with a white dress shirt, narrow red tie and the shiniest dress pants I’ve seen in a long time, lol. So as I am sort of looking his way, thinking, “man, those are some damn shiny pants you have on there!” he comes up to my table and asks if I mind if he sits down. I say, “why not, it’s a free country” For some reason I have kept my sunglasses on. He sits down and starts to eat his pizza but it’s clear he really wants to have a conversation with me.
“Did you have a late night last night, is that why you have your glasses on?”
I laugh and say, “No, not particularly.”
” What color are your eyes?” he asks me.
“Are you trying to get me to take my sunglasses off?” I ask.
“Yes, why don’t you?”
“I agree with Sophia Loren that, after a certain age, sunglasses are the best cosmetic” I quip
“Come on”, he says
Now I see that he is seriously flirting with me and I can’t believe it.
“You are not going to get me to take my glasses off!” I say. “You’re just going to have to imagine what color my eyes are…”
At this point I can’t believe I am having this conversation,lol. The pizzeria is a big local hangout for the high school kids and it gets quite crowded at lunchtime. He nods to some kids at the table next to us and shouts something out to one of them that he seems to know.
Then he comes back to our conversation. “What is that scar on your neck from?” he asks.
I can’t believe he’s asking me such a personal question. But there is something about him that is very warm and endearing. He is so matter of fact about it, too.
“It’s from a biopsy that I had when I was about 22” I say. “It didn’t heal right and that’s why it made such a big scar”
“Oh” he says, totally unfazed at my revelation. “It doesn’t look bad, I was just wondering. I like it”
He likes it, I think? That’s a little weird
“So,” I say to him, “do you always approach strangers and sit down and have these type conversations.?”
“yeah, why not?” he asks.
“Well,” I say “I am too shy to do that.”
“Why, what could happen, what could go wrong?”
“I would feel afraid of being rejected” I confess.
“nah, who cares about that” he says.“Are you sure you won’t take your glasses off?”
At this point we are almost done eating. We have a bit more small talk and he wants to know yeah, you saw it coming, right? if we can meet again and have lunch. Next time maybe I’ll take off my glasses.
“I don’t think so,” I say. “I’m married”
“So? We’re just going to lunch. would your husband really mind?”
“I don’t think it’s a good idea.”
“What if I said I was gay?”
“Oh no,” I say, laughing and shaking my head, ”you are most certainly not gay!”I can actually feel the non gay aura wafting off of him, lol
“I could call you”
“No, but it was really nice talking to you.”
As I am leaving he wants to know my name. I tell him and ask his name.
“Dante”
wow, really? I never knew a Dante before, I think
I go my way and he goes his and we have never seen each other since. I walked away shaking my head, but realizing how powerful it can be, when out of the blue, someone just chooses to connect with you.okay, I realize he was trying to pick me up, maybe. But still. It was in a nce way, not overbearing.
I think maybe this guy just has a thing for older women. Or maybe he just loves people and wants to meet up. Still not sure. But he was such a sweet guy. He really touched me and made me smile that day. And, oh yes, it was oh so flattering to my ego!