NSFW: Would you men ever get involved with a sexually inexperienced woman?

Men get involved with sexually inexperienced women all the time. Some have something bordering on a fetish for it. In my experience, it’s women who don’t want inexperienced men.

Someone like that would be pure gold for a dominant-type or a teacher-type for the exact reason you mentioned, they are submissive, malleable, open, and unscarred by past potentially negative experiences. If she kept her mind open, it could be a mindblowing epiphany for her own sexuality.

I know I sure as hell wouldn’t mind it. And I agree with @SavoirFaire as well; my own experience and understanding also tell me that men are much more tolerant and forgiving of sexual inexperience than women are.

I wouldn’t. My first girlfriend was a virgin (so was I) and trying to have sex was ridiculously difficult because of awkwarness/physical issues/emotional issues/expectations. I prefer experienced girls now (every girl I’ve dated since has been wayyy more experienced than me) and it’s been much better for me that way.

That said, I know tons of guys who love the whole doe-eyed virgin thing. Just be sure she isn’t being exploited.

I think there are millions of men in the world and their are likely going to be a ton of different reactions to sleeping with an inexperience woman. However the more inexperience a person is the more likely you can mold them at first to your preferances. With time and experience she will learn what she likes or doesn’t like and will more than likely learn to speak up. Eventually the student will surpass the teacher or it can turn out she doesn’t even like sex. Only time will tell.

Give her my phone number. We’ll talk.

Don’t tell her that, what’s wrong with you? I mean really..is that what you think men do with women, treat them like sex dolls?

@Simone : it’s a figure of speech and my cousin knew what I meant.

Please don’t derail my thread.

It’s all about attitude. Just because someone has had a lot of sex doesn’t automatically mean they’re good in bed or have a healthy attitude in general about sex/relatioships.

An open mind trumps experience.

I actually know quite a few men who won’t because while, at first, they think it’ll be great – they can mold her and she’ll have no frame of reference – they then proceed to psych themselves out that she will remember it forever and it will be the sole molding sexual experience and then they decide that it’s just too much pressure. Which seems like the exact opposite mindset of what the “older” virgins are looking for.

@squirbel I have no interest in derailing your thread.

This thread surely has made me rethink my assumptions about sexuality. I thought most men would jump at the chance to have the first go at an untouched woman. Then again, I assumed that women are usually passive and submissive during sex. Guess not!

Have her PM me and we can surely discuss it.

I’m thinking the likelihood that the wife would object…...violently, would almost certainly scupper any premeditated thoughts of this nature right from the get go. Which is fair enough.

I wouldn’t. I like a woman to know what she wants and isn’t afraid to demand it, and also a desire to work out out what floats my boat. The idea of moulding an woman to my tastes is appalling – far better to meet a kindred spirit…

Yes, and I have multiple times. In fact often times they can be more fun because you’re not thinking about the guys they’ve been with, and you feel more “manly” because you get to “show them the ropes.”

Have her put an ad on Craigslist (or wherever) and let her see for herself. She doesn’t have to respond, of course, just count the replies.

If you care for the person, what does her sexual history matter? Your dating her, not her vagina.

I find it interesting that some people seem to have very specific ideas of what someone’s early sex life should be like but wish to avoid sexually inexperienced partners. If you are so afraid of people being manipulated by their first partner, why not be that partner and give the person the sort of experience you think is appropriate? We all help to shape our partners—experienced or not—and they shape us in return. But we can do that without shaping them specifically to our tastes.

(This assumes, of course, that there are no countervailing reasons for abstaining from this particular partner. I’m speaking of those who would avoid someone primarily on the grounds of sexual inexperience.)

Personally, I wouldn’t want a sexually inexperienced partner as I’m 44 and I’ve been there, done that and have no burning desire to repeat the experience. It takes two to tango, and if one of those two isn’t sure of their footwork there’s going to be too much stumbling. As to how a woman has gained experience prior to meeting me, I couldn’t care less (as long as she’s not picked up something nasty along the way). I’m certainly not going to be thinking of the previous men in her life (and hopefully she won’t be either).

All of this is moot anyway as I’m quite happily partnered up

I would, but I think I would keep it in mind that it may not last. Once someone experiences something for the first time they tend to want a lot of it and eventually it’s going to involve coming from different sources. Getting out there, gaining more experience.

It’s a preference. Simple as that. What people seem to forget is that everyone was once a virgin. Some will say yes, others..no.

Just a btw, I’m a virgin (girl) and I’d prefer a virgin guy. It doesn’t necessarily matter, but as I said before.. It’s about preference.

@ducky_dnl But you’re also a young virgin, Duck. It’s much more socially acceptable to be a virgin at your age.