Would you please talk me out of this infatuation? Would you tell me some of your silly crushes?

Is he married? don’t go messing with married men.

What’s wrong with the feeling? It doesn’t mean you’re going to act on it—which is what you’re really worried about, no?
If it’s just a crush it’ll go away. I get “schoolgirl crushes” all the time even though I’m kinda too “old” for them too. It’s never about the person as a whole for me, just a few of their traits..

Here’s my “brutal and critical” side: stop focusing on it so much and it’ll fade faster. Getting worked up about feeling something you ‘shouldn’t’ be feeling will make it worse.

@zenvelo I do not know if he’s married. And, I would never!

@DancingMind Crushes aren’t wrong, per se, but what makes me uncomfortable about this one is that I took the doctor’s (an authority figure’s) good humor and professionalism towards me and perverted it, in a sense. It just makes me embarrassed. If he wasn’t a doctor or someone in a position of power over me then this wouldn’t be a problem, but he is and that’s what bugs me about my feelings.

As for your brutal and critical side. Thank you; very good point!

Ha! I had a similar crush on the local blood test technician in high school. I actually wrote him a song, “Ode to the Blood Test Guy.” I was going to go in and perform it for him, but by the time I mustered up the courage, they had replaced him :(

Okay fine, if you insist:

Ode To the Blood Test Guy:

(Verse)
One Friday morning, in May of 2006
I went to Hadley Family Practice
I was in a fix

My glands were the size of volleyballs
I barely had a voice
I had never given blood
But I didn’t have a choice

(Pre-chorus)
My palms were sweating
I thought that I would spew
I looked at the clock, trembling
Waiting for you

Finally a man yelled, “Next!”
I walked toward the fluorescent light
Dr. Robert Jimenez* greeted me
It was love at first sight
Oh yeah, love at first sight

(Chorus)
You’re my Blood Test Guy
And I’ll give my hand to you
You’ll puncture my brachial artery
And give me a sticker with Scooby-Doo

You’re my Blood Test Guy
And you’re pumping out my love
Is it getting hot in here?
Or am I just missing a pint of blood
Baby, take all of my blood

(Verse)
I saw the needle sticking in my arm
And I started feeling squeamish
He asked me how I’m holding up
I said “I WANT TO TOUCH YOUR…um, fine thanks!”

The needle came out and on went gauze
He was done as far as I saw, NO!
I asked, “Will I…HAVE to see you again?
He said, “Depends if you have mono.”
Oh, please let me have mono!!!

Ten days later
I had a checkup date
I had to have another test
I could feel my heart inflate

He saw me and said, “Back so soon?”
I said, “I just can’t stay away!”
He said to take my sweater off
—I was quick to obe—

CHORUS

I went back after ten more days
I said, “Blood test, please.”
My doctor said I didn’t have enough
So I fell to my knees.

I would never see him again
Our love was just a big LIE
But as long as I have ventricles
He’ll be my Blood Test Guy

CHORUS

*Name changed to protect identity :)

[edit: tried to fix typo, failed]

*obey

Haha, okay so you’re sure there’s no way in hell this would ever work out? What if you tried to contact him for the purpose of making friends? Sure, you believe that there’s no chance for ‘something more’ but surely he would appreciate a friendly gesture from a patient letting him know what a fantastic doctor he is.

@sliceswiththings I truly love your song! Rhyming squeamish with ____, pure brilliance.

I don’t understand why you are tring to squash the attraction without finding out if it has any possibility.

I agree with @marinelife. Why not find out whether he’s in a relationship, and if he’s not, maybe the two of you could go out. He’s not your regular doctor, so it wouldn’t be breaking any professional codes.

As for me, I have a ridiculous crush on a guy with whom I went to school during my undergrad. He was also on a trip to Italy that I took a few years ago. I’ve been in a relationship for 10 years, and he now has a girlfriend whom he’s been with for about 2 years, but man oh man, he’s gorgeous and smart, devastatingly handsome, tall, muscular, and he can sing and play guitar… and I just can’t stop thinking about him. I had a sexy dream about him last night, as a matter of fact. Because I know that nothing will come of it, I view it as harmless and just enjoy the dreams when I have them.

Psst…Word around town has it that he’s a minute man XD

I agree with @marinelife. Follow it up. Just because he’s a doctor, doesn’t mean he looks down on you. He may have actually been flirting with you, and feeling just as embarrassed about it as you feel out of place. If you felt that energy, you felt it.

My big concern is what are you attracted by. Is it his personality? Or is it his job or his looks?

I’d say that if you see him around town, you go up and say hi. There’s is nothing that crushes a crush as much as reality. He may be different. He may be short with you. He may just be not interested. Once you find out the negative stuff, your crush will be hard to sustain. Remember, at this point it’s all your fantasy. Nothing like reality to kill fantasy.

I don’t think it’s as bad as you’re making it sound…....was he wearing a ring? If not I say what @wundayatta said. Say hi to him next time you see him out and about and if he’s the same as he was at the office, ask him out!

@Blueroses Thanks:)