Advice for what do about my crush?

Suck it up, mate.

If she doesn’t like you in that way, there’s nothing you can do to change it.

Try to be her friend and see if you can only occasionally let her know you would still like to be her boyfriend. If you’re very lucky, maybe she’ll give you a shot when she feels ready again. Seems to usually not happen that way, though. So the conventional wisdom is for you to date other people.

I would date other people and treat her as any other friend you have.Maybe not see her too much for awhile

the missing piece is what did she say to you when she found out?

now that she knows, you still have to respect her as a friend, not act like a quasi boy friend, or try to “fill in” while she is taking a breather from being in a relationship. If it’s too painful, be honest with her and tell her you need distance in the friendship. don’t get her anything more than a friendly card for Valentines Day. and don’t have any expectation of her getting you anything or even calling you.

This is actually a fairly common situation, but each situation is a little different. the advice to date others is good advice.

I was thinking of dating others, I don’t really have too much of a desire to date her anymore. I just don’t want it to be too awkward between us when we do hang out, you know?

It won’t be awkward as long as you don’t stare at her. Then it gets awkward.

Sometimes guys have a tendency in these situations to overreact in throwing up the defenses and act a little bit more like a jerk than they normally would, in the name of emotional self-preservation. It’s okay to be nice to her, to let her see the nice guy side of you. The days are short, but the years are long. Even if it never works out with her, she may point a friend your way some time in the future.

Hmm. Good points, all of them. I’ll take it to heart, thanks man.

It’s a crap shoot, my friend.

It could be that if you give up and tell her no hard feelings – she’ll change her mind and come after you. __That happened to me__. It could be that you pursue her full out and eventually she comes around. __That happened to me, too__. It could be you just wander away and she comes looking for you __That happens to a lot of people__. It could be that you start spending a lot of one on one time together and suddenly you say, “What was I thinking!”

All I have to say is deal with it, you’re still good friends with her right? Keep it that way for now. It’s better than having no relationship at all with her ya know? That’s all I have to say on this. Sorry if it wasn’t much help, good luck on it!