Do ex-strippers make good wives and mothers?
“Because of her past, she will never make a good wife or mother”. Is this a true statement? Of the two ex-strippers I know, neither one has been a good wife or mother to their children or their husbands. One, has been married three times and always ends in a divorce over her past profession. Question: is it possible for an ex-stripper to become a great mother and wife, because of her past job as a stripper and associated drug culture?
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I don’t know of personal examples, but I think it depends on the woman. I’ve heard of women going into stripping to put themselves through college and once they are done college, they leave the stripper life behind them. I imagine some of them manage to make a good wife/mother.
Strippers are women and sometimes men so I would say they have the same chances of success as does everyone else.
On another social site that I go to sometimes, there are a number of former strippers and prostitutes who now have husbands and children. The way they talk, they sound like good mothers. It sounds like their husbands continue to love them. Also, judging by what they write about their experiences, it sounds like that have a good understanding of what they have been through and why they went through it and how they want to live in the future.
Any person is perfectly capable of being a good husband or wife….The problem is that they have to be committed and responsible….Relationships come with their responsibilities, and the person has to be sure and be willing to do their part. Some people just don’t understand how it feels like to fall in love nor do they value it like real lovers do. It all depends on the person and what they want out of life.
Because society isn’t really forgiving to people who work in the sex industry in any form generally, it’s likely that people start stripping have dealt with some issues, and it’s very likely that they’ll deal with issues after leaving the job.
The question is being asked about the wrong people. The question should be “Will we as a society get off of our high moral horses, stop judging, and both allow and help ex-strippers to be great mothers?”
Sure its possible. In fact I’m quite sure just about any of them probably could. In my admittedly limited experience with strippers though, they tend to have a certain “mindset” or “personality” that frankly isn’t usually productive to healthy relationships.
Also as a guy, I know I would not be able to date a former stripper. Her past is her past, but I have limits. I imagine most guys at least would hold that against her to some level, even if they bottled it up and tried to ignore it. So that would probably be a pressing issue.
I don’t think their former profession is necessarily a factor in how good of a wife and mother someone is.
I can only give you an example of one stripper that I knew 20 years ago. She was a good friend, sweet person, that made good money stripping. I’m in contact with her now and she is a wonderful mother to a middle school aged child. Her son is high honors and succeeds in wrestling. He loves his mom.
Today she discussed with me her anger concerning a neighbor of hers that is a foster parent. These foster parents are very well off financially, have the nicest house and cars, but pay no attention to their 8 foster children. She was complaining about these kids running around the neighborhood this morning in clothes not fit for our weather. (we have wind chill advisories today, well below -10F). She was thinking of reporting these foster parents and asking for advice.
Yes, they can make good mothers.
Depends on the woman, not the “old saying.”
I have a question for you @john65pennington. Do men that frequent strip clubs make good husbands and fathers? ;)
That is a most unfortunate stereo type. Dancing has nothing to do with being a mother. There are some really shitty moms I know who would have made better strippers than a mother though.
Depends on the ex-stripper.
During the “rock and roll lifestyle” I led in my 20’s, I new more than a couple of erm… “working girls” (as friends/acquaintances, not as a customer) and I can say that the ones that were not totally screwed up were among the sanest people I have ever known. Unlike most, they had a keen awareness of exactly who and what they were and where they fit into the big picture. How many “regular” folks do you know who can say the same?
@YoBob I do know one lady like that. She knows exactly where she fits in in life and it is impressive in how well defined she put herself there. I am envious of her ability to do that. ;)
I don’t know, I guess I’m going to have to round them all up in my house and conduct a study first – I’m planning on a good time, if you know what I mean, cause you know they’re loose and stuff, get it?
Can men who go to see strippers become good husbands and fathers?
@john65pennington was your mother or your wife ever a stripper? That might answer your question if they were? I’m saying that not to be mean just to make a point that every person is as much a part of this life as the next.
One thing is certain: they’re more likely to give their husbands proper lap dances.
How do you put a price on that?
Q. Why do men date exotic dancers?
A. Because they can!
FWIW, my wife is a belly dancer
This question rubbed me the wrong way.
I guess I don’t understand why there is an assumption that stripping=involvement in a drug culture, although, I do know one stripper personally and she is deep into drugs. She’s the only stripper I know, too. But I also know convenience store workers who are deep into it drugs too.
@Dutchess_III There is a bit of truth to that assumption, but as you stated, you know a convenience store worker who was deep into drugs too. Doesn’t mean a person can’t make a better life for themselves, and be a good spouse and parent some day.
This question is a perfect example of the Madonna/ Whore complex. Either women can be sexual, or we can be mothers and wives, but never both? That standard is impossible to live up to. When are we going to get over this and realize that the two things are not mutually exclusive?
@Dutchess_III yes ma’am. I was a stripper at a newspaper from 1979 to 1982. I was technically a four-color stripper. But a stripper none the less.
Summum, no offense taken. I would like to add the stripping scene is generally associated with illegal drugs and drug addiction. One of the ex-strippers was addicted as a stipper and is still addicted today. Her whole family is trying to keep her clean, so she can keep her children. This is really a sad situation for a woman thats 41 years old. One of her exs, father of one of her children, has been sheltered from her addictions. We believe he has no knowledge of her drug addctions. With this knowledge, surely he would seek court ordered complete custody of his child. This is a messy and nerve racking situation for her family. It is slowly tearing them apart.
LOL! WELL! Were you able to become a good wife and mother after that @bk? And after all of your sniffing ink and stuff???
@Dutchess_III it was back in the day when we smoked inside, most everyone had a bottle in their desk drawer for inspiration and and we would get the jitters from too much coffee. It was a second shift job and most of us went out and partied pretty hard after work and slept half our mornings away.
Most of the women I knew danced, and flirted and got free drinks from gullible guys at the bars we frequented. We’d scope out the railroad guys because we knew they were lonely and lllloooaaaddded.
Looking back, we had lots of fun and were pretty bad girls. Come to think of it, I haven’t changed that much 30 years after the fact. But my husband says I’m the best. My living children have all turned out to be upstanding, creative, compassionate, happy, beautiful, funny and productive members of society. My granddaughter is the best too. Not a drug addict, divorce or jailbird among them.
I’ve not met one yet who’s made a responsible parent or a happy wife and I’ve known a good handful of “dancers/performers”, etc.
Haleth, you get a great answer mark from me. Your answer hits this situation right on the head. This is a classic example of the question i was asking. thanks.
@john65pennington Your descriptions of the ex-strippers above sound like a few non-stripper types I have known in my life. And you sound a bit like you already have your mind made up about women who are in or have been in the sex industry and their abilities to function in society. Aren’t you a cop or ex-cop? Would you want us generalizing about how you raise ( or raised) your kids or functioned in life because of your job?
It’s almost a sure thing if she’s married to a good husband and father.
Do doctors make good wives and mothers? I know one who isn’t a good mom.
Do sales women make good wives and mothers? I know one who is an alcoholic and a terrible wife.
Do teachers make good wives and mothers? I know one who is on her third divorce.
My point is… well, I think my point is obvious.
I happen to know 2 former strippers who are excellent, loving wives (no kids yet but I bet they’d be great at it). I’m sure some former strippers are terrible wives and mothers.
Didn’t you ask this a while ago or am I misremembering?
It’s a pity that it seems like most policemen, unless they have an extremely high resilience to seeing noxious behavior in humans on a daily basis, tend to eventually see the world in black and white.
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Do ex-strippers make good wives and mothers?
The person who posted the question and answer is missing the most important fact.
This is what I do, not what I am.
As for drugs, almost all drug dealers are men and do they care who they sell to….sell
to kids, teens, any one who has the cash…except the law..
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