When you first moved in with your SO, did you go through a big adjustment?

For me it was just like getting to know them all over in a different light . The needs and wants are different for both .

I am really a neat freak. He is not. This was our first major clash. The next thing was that he had so much stuff. I’m the anti-pack rat. It was an adjustment, but it was so worth it!

When my ex and I first lived together, it was the little things, like how to load the dishwasher, that caused conflict. Our biggest argument was over which answering machine to use; that one dragged on for months.

Oh heck yes. Artist vs military guy. It took us a couple of years to get him to slightly lower his standards while I raised mine to meet them.

Not at all. It was such a difference from living with my ex-husband, I just couldn’t believe it.

We never did adjust, it just 20 years to admit it and get a divorce. lol

She moved in and promptly ordered ESPN on my cable. That’s when I knew I was in love.

It was more comfortable for us when together than apart, we had so few things of annoyance that we felt lucky.

It did not feel the least bit different. I very much enjoyed it…it was usually one of us staying at the others house anyhow, and thats pretty inconvenient in a lot of ways. So it was easier for both of us. But I understand a lot of couples need more space and time to themselves and their friends, but I’m just not like that, so I think that’s why it was easier.

It was a bit different for me because I was always use to having my own stuff and no one ever messed with it. When I moved in with my boy I had to adjust to having someone else there and having his stuff around too. I think after 3 years I’m still doing a little bit of adjusting but the truth is I can’t see my life without him anymore. It is truly a beautiful thing. What’s mine is his and what’s his is mine. I love it!

Not at all. We live very well together… which I happen to think is one of the factors in making a marriage work. Living with another human being is hard, even if you love them. When you find someone that you can live happily with (or find a way to live happily together), that’s valuable stuff right there.
Anyhow, no, it wasn’t much of an adjustment for me. It was very natural for us. Still is.

After we had only known each other in person briefly (after an extended online and telephone courtship) we moved to a new place for both of us and made a home and a life together. We have been together for 8 years and married for 7 (so far).

Yes I had to adjust (and so did my partner to having three children around. He had no children). I had been living on my own with my children for about three years and we had our own routines, I had my own way of doing things. I was used to making all the decisions. I had to start to take my now husband’s needs into account and it took a while for us all to get used to each other.

No, there was no big adjustment at all. It was like we were meant to live with each other. There has never been any disagreements on how things are done, or who get control of the bathroom in the morning. We do are own thing, and take turns.

We didn’t have a big adjustment as a couple. My husband had an adjustment to living with a child and having a parental role, but it wasn’t really a big deal. All three of us handled it really smoothly. The biggest adjustment about moving in together for me was being away from family and living in Texas at the time. We both have similar ideas of what ‘clean’ really is and work really well together at getting things done that need to be done. We have talked about this and there are times that we both say it feels like this is how it has always been (us living together). We just fit together really naturally.

Really big adjustment… just as I had expected. I think it would have been quite minor if I hadn’t had to deal with resurfacing issues and my 13 year-old child who had never lived with a father-figure.

It’s been a year and a half and things are great.

We had to learn to sleep in the same bed. Her especially, because apparently I could be used to heat south pole research stations. “Luckily”, I have a seasonal job that takes me away for half the week, and was also working night shifts at my other job.

Other than that, we just needed to learn how to divvy up the chores, which we might still need some work on.