Friends of mine are planning to get married sometime next year. Should they choose to be different ?Or choose something that tells how special their love for one another is?

I think they must solve this themselves. If they can’t, they should seriously consider calling it off. You’d do best to stay out of it.

My wedding used an obscure song that maybe less than ½ of 1% of the world population knows. I used to work in a banquet hall and have attended many receptions, and generally the song was a familiar tune. (The top three, in no order, seemed to be “Can’t Help Falling In Love,” “Can I Have This Dance For the Rest of My Life,” and “Just the way you are,” which is odd because that last one really isn’t even a love song). Anyway, it would seem there really is no wrong answer to this question. The first dance is for the couple, not congregation, so they should choose a song for them, not others.

Thats exactly what they are trying to do. From what I heard last night. He is being a little hard on her saying “I remember hearing that song when I worked at CVS”. Honestly does it matter? What matters is you love each other enough to be with each other forever. And you need to compromise but he is critical of every song she likes.

My suspicion is that you are the bride-to-be, looking for support. I don’t blame you for looking for support. I just still think that if a couple can’t solve something as trivial as this over an event that seals their union, it’s going to be a rocky road ahead. They need to learn some negotiating and problem-solving skills right now, before the big day, even if they have to put the wedding planning on hold while they take some classes or see a counselor.

The song is suppose to be one that is important to them as a couple. Their song, so to speak. Sure, he needs to listen to her, but she also needs to listen to his opinion as well. I have to agree with @Jeruba about them working on this together and seeing how well they can problem solve together. This is just one of many things they may disagree on in the future and it’s best for them to know they can work through their disagreements sooner rather than finding out they can’t later.

Has he recommended songs to her? Is she being just as critical of his choices as he is of hers? If so, they need to meet in the middle somehow, but the how is really up to them.

I am a close friend of theirs both. Just overheard them talking

When my wife and I got married, our wedding was different from any I had gone to before in many ways. Everyone I know still talks about it, and a few of my friends modeled their own weddings on ours. If that sounds attractive to your friends, they would do well to consider being different. That said, there is no reason they can’t find such a song that also expresses how special their love/relationship is. It’s a wedding: go for perfection whenever possible.

It’s there thing, not our place to try to decide for them.

Probably not meant to be overheard, then. Have you been asked to interfere? It’s best left alone.