Poll results reveal men don't hate Valentine's Day, they actually fear it because they are afraid of "getting it wrong." Your thoughts?

I don’t get why men have to plan something for their women and that the responsibility for a nice evening is all theirs (I also don’t do Valentine’s day).

I think it signifies that something is supremely wrong in the relationships of the vast majority of people polled.

I can see men being afraid they are going to upset their significant other by not meeting their expectations. To me, it’s just another example of why communication is so important in a relationship.

It should be a fun and lighthearted way of celebrating your togetherness. And I agree with Simone_De_Beauvoir that it’s not the man’s responsibilty to make it good and shower her with gifts and so on. Isn’t the whole idea of real romance that it’s mutual?

Fear is a big word , I think they may be confused on what to buy and afraid of being embarrased if they go into a ’’ girlie ’ store .

I didn’t realize there were soooo many gift giving occasions till I got married. :(:) Blink and another comes around. Did someone say it was Valentines day??????? Just kidding

I believe there’s some weight to that poll. My own fiancee told me for Vday last year he was stumped to the point of stress, not sure of what kind of gift and then reading so much into everything, not sure what the gift would signify- enough, not enough, blah blah. Me, I was absolutely thrilled with roses he had delivered to me at work. I had no idea what had gone through his mind up to that point. Poor man, at least this year is more fun for him.

Makes sense to me. My husband has told me twice he has not planned anything for Valentine’s Day this year. I know he is checking that I won’t be dissappointed. He is very romantic in general, and no he is not going to surprise me.

Not to mention that I do know women that complain when their SO’s don’t do up Valentine’s Day to their expectations, and I am sure their dissappointment shows through to their SO’s.

I could care less if my husband does something specific for me for V day. But, I think it is very sweet that he wants to be sure it is ok with me that he hasn’t planned anything, the years that he hasn’t.

I heard V-day will change hands from Hallmark to Pfizer next year. Viagra Day!

I can sure relate to that. My wife doesn’t like chocolates. She loves flowers, but gets angry if I buy them because they cost too much given how long they last. Living plants are out because in this condo, we don’t have the natural light to keep them healthy. She has her fill of teddy bears and stuffed animals. My son gives her another one every Christmas anyway, so she’s told me to not even think about getting her a stuffed animal. She’d love to go see a play like Mary Poppins or a theatrical comedy event like Blue Man Group. But she would look up the ticket prices on the Internet then fly into a rage about the cost. She doesn’t like fancy clothes and doesn’t wear jewelry.

Look, I am not complaining. My wife’s even more frugal than me, and because of that we are debt free and doing OK. But I haven’t a clue what to give her that she’ll actually cherish.

Thank goodness early on in my marriage I pointed out that Valentine’s Day was the worst day to go out to dinner.

I actually like VD, and have always chosen “meaningful” gifts that don’t break my bank account. But I have always set expectations low well in advance, so no jewelry, a live plant instead of roses, maybe a book. And always get at least three cards: one funny, one sentimental, and one kinda serious.

@zenvelo You might want to reconsider the phrase “I actually like VD”.

Despise might be a better word. There’s too much pressure for men/women to please their partners on this day. If you don’t get it right your partner will be disappointed.

meh…..

@incendiary_dan Ha! Nice catch. @zenvelo I didn’t know you could catch VD from giving Valentine’s gifts.

@incendiary_dan Good Catch! @ETpro You can catch it if you give the right gifts to the wrong person!

@zenvelo Touche!

Nah, no massacre here.

Yeah. My husband’s so scared of it he ignores it all together. And my birthday!

@Dutchess_III Aww! Here’s a Valentine’s Day wish for you in that case. May the day be one of joy and sweet as chocolate—without any calories!

@ETpro Thank you! Wait till I tell my husband!!!! HA HA HA HA HA!!!!! you go hide now….