Women, when you get dressed up and go out, why does it bug you if guys look at you? (not gawk)

girls will give “that look” to either, show they’re not interested or show their friends all guys want them. secretly in the back of their minds they enjoy it, but feel if they do it’ll make them conceited. you know unless it’s some nasty looking guy then i see the reason for the look, it’s a little creepy.

I love when men look at me. Makes me feel like I still got it. I actually notice that women look more its funny.

my gf loves to get all dolled up and dressed up when we go out. I don’t like the looks she gets from other guys. Sometimes I have to say something to these guys. I’ve never really been the type to flaunt the trophy gf. If she dressed down with no make up, I’d still think she was hot and beautiful because I fell for her content not the cover the book came with.

I get dressed up because it makes me feel just so fresh and so clean… Haha really, I dont ever think about getting “checked out” not even in the back of my mind. I only really notice or choose to notice my boyfriend checking me out. Yep.

@ninjaxmarc; if only all guys were like you.

I know! I second that, lovelyy.

Sorry but I am naturally oblivious to my surroundings – usually caught up in the dreamy nonsense in my head – also was pretty fugly growing up so never was an issue – nowadays when I get dolled up it’s to keep my husband’s eye on me longer than anyone else, hopefully ;)

If I got dressed up and am looking cute…. the point is to feel noticed and snazzy. I rarely do it, though. Girls with curves aren’t the popular thing.

@delirium: I guess we all want what we can’t have because I always thought it was girls with curves that was the popular thing!!! (and me.. Lack thereof.)

hey delirium is it you in your avatar picture? I love the haircut

@lovelyy/thehaight
there are a few of us still out there just keep your eyes peeled. Thanks for the compliments :)

When I get dressed/made up to the nines, it’s usually because I want the attention of one particular guy that I have in mind. If the attention I get isn’t from him, then, yes, I’d get peeved. Generally, attention from random guys isn’t what I seek. Random girls is okay though, because they are quite hard to impress and usually don’t let other girls know they look good!

True, I never really thought about it till now but I think girls check out girls more!

For me there is a difference between a guy giving me a polite compliment & getting creepy. I LOVE compliments, I hate catcalls & cheesy pick-up lines. I’m fairly well endowed & you would not believe the number of times I’ve been asked if they’re real. Typically I say, “No. There figments of your imagination.” I really want to say, “f off. It’s none of your business.”

I get dressed up for my man. I don’t mind if other guys look politely cuz that’s when I whisper into my man ear, “I’m all yours and no one else can have me.” He just smiles & smiles.

As long as it’s nothing scary or creepy, then I really don’t care if someone checks me out or not; people look at other people, it’s just part of humanity. And if I am dressing up or making an effort to show off than I do expect to get checked out more; anyone that dresses up or does something crazy to their appearance and then gets pissy when people notice them is probably not ok with themselves and has other issues.

TheHaight: I find that boys find the whole stickgirl thing much more attractive.
Alina: Actually the hair is tied back in that picture, so its not that posh of a haircut. I love it, though. I can hide when I want to, and pull it back when I feel like showing my face.

I dress up to match my alter-ego, to look good, wearing things I like and this for me signals something about who I am and how I feel at the time. I assume if people look at me in more than for orientation of their surroundings its because what I’m communicating with my look also strikes a chord with them. After all, our first impressions are generally visual so you should communicate what you want others to perceive about you.
Of course when it gets rude its a different story…then its a matter of respect or lack thereof

oh no kidding! It looks like a posh becks haircut. You are very beautiful

Good lighting, makeup, and a great photographer do most of the work. ;)

I think most women don’t want to get looked at by onlookers who they consider “creepy.” But, really, what makes attention creepy? Basically, attention is okay if it’s wanted. If it’s unwanted or unwelcome, then it’s considered creepy. If the most attractive, well-dressed guy in the room were making eyes at you from across the party, you probably wouldn’t mind. In fact, you might strike up a conversation with him. But if a less-attractive (or, I should say, a less-appealing) dude were doing the exact same thing, I think the same woman would probably say to her friends nine times out of ten, “Look at that creep in the corner! He’s staring at us. Let’s get out of here!” To me, it’s a double standard.

I disagree with you a little @ emily. Some very attractive men have creeped me out. For me it has more to do with someones energy then looks. I know that is an intangible but that is the best way I can describe it.

To add to LunaFemme’s comment, I think that that “energy” could be described by lust – like, the guy is a salivating predator and he could be good-looking or not. For me, that predator-quality is really easy to pick up and translates to creepiness.

Absolutely jz & predator is a great word to describe it. I’ve experienced a man smiling @ me & saying “hi” and he sent chills down my spine it so creeped me out. And it’s nothing he said or did it was just that gut reaction. Maybe it’s my prey survivor instincts kicking in or something.

@ Luna
your gut was telling you something without being obvious its always good to go with the gut, most guys get the picture if their not interested the ones that keep coming at you ate the ones to watch for. Some might find it endearing others just plain scary but if a guy would do something drastically wrong then you just sent the wrong message over.

@LunaFemme: Yeah, I agree. That’s why I wrote “a less-attractive (or, I should say, a less-appealing) dude.” Basically, if you like what you see, or what you hear, or what that person’s energy represents, then you’re down with a little bit of checking out. But I think that if that person is not appealing (which goes beyond just looks alone) then they’re viewed as “creepy.” In the situation you described, your gut was probably right. But on the same token, I’m sure that there are some “nice guys” out there who have been viewed as creeps because they were checking out a girl who was just not that interested.

@ninjaxmarc, I totally agree with your first response 100%. My g/f loves to dress up too. For some reason though I prefer her all natural. I think she looks so great with out all the makeup, not saying she does not look beautifull with makeup. I think it makes her so much more comfortable knowing that she doesn’t have to dress up all the time and can be relaxed and feel like her self. She also gets dressed up for me and also to look good for her self as well.

I like it when a guy notices me. Although I don’t always catch it when they do. I don’t really think I’m that attractive so it usually is a nice suprise!

I like to be admired, but I hate it when they look at me like I am tonight’s dinner!!

I agree, when I dress to the nines it’s because I want the attention and welcome it. What amazes me is sometimes I get the attention when I least want it…when I’m dressed in a pair of sweats; hair in a pony tail; and the previous nights make-up still on my face; running a quick errand that I’m forced to deal with. Typically, when I’m this situation, if there is a freak within a 100 miles of me, he’ll find me. UGH! Sometimes I truly don’t understand what men find attractive.

@LunaFemme – I find most women to be most attractive without lots of makeup and in easy clothes and hair :)
I suppose it differs for everybody.

It doesn’t bug me personally because If you get dolled up to go out obviously you want attention right? Just as long as it is at least semi-respectful.Some guys do go overboard though and touching is definitely NOT part of the deal!!!