Seasonoffall” @Electra, you’ve misread me again.
Electra: How is asking you questions that you avoided instead of answering “misreading” you? Do you know what “misreading” means?
seasonofall: don’t support the ring and ball.
Electra: If you don’t, WHY did you pretend in your above post that dislike of this disgusting practice somehow shows negativity toward father / daughter relationships in general? This sort of strawman typically comes from someone who precisely DOES want others to accept the practice that this person disavows. It’s an old rhetorical trick I’ve seen a lot among people who can’t really debate and so try poor, obvious manipulation tactics.
seasonoffall” What do you think a father’s role should be in relationship to his daughter, and in context to her emotional and physical well being, including her decisions about sex? You still haven’t answered this question.
Electra: I have in the context of this thread, because I’ve very clearly stated what a father’s proper role in regard to his daughter is NOT: no one who takes a sexualized, inappropriate role meant to curtail his daughter’s normal sexual relationships is being a good, even normal father.
seasonofall: It would seem reasonable that if you disagree with an action you would be ready to offer a conversely appropriate action in the same context.
Electra: Um, the question was about chastity rings. I find them perverse, for the reasons stated above. Conversely, a normal father / daughter relationship is one in which the father realizes his daughter will engage in normal sexual relationships—that is, sexual relationships that do not involve him.
seasonoffall: I’d also be curious about your experience with these relationship scenarios. Did you grow up with a father? Do you have daughters and do they have a father in their lives?
Electra: And you accuse ME of “not answering the question,” which is a variation of the claim that one is misdirecting the thread. Ironic, that. I grew up with a father who didn’t do perverse, incestuous things with me—that is, I grew up in a family that realized that I would eventually have normal sexual relationships and my father realized that.
seasonoffall: Your lack of willingness to address this question makes makes me wonder if your point is suspect to bitterness to this relationship in general.
Electra: So, because I did not answer a question that was not asked (my opinion of chastity rings was asked; how would this involve MY relationship with my father, since it was a normal one), you invent an excuse to implicitly insult me—I don’t take the point of view you are passive aggressively endorsing, so I must be “bitter about these relationships.” Wow, why not go the whole hog and say that because I don’t endorse obscene Christian / conservative rituals, I simply must be a lesbian who was raped by my father? Go on, give it your best shot!:D