How often do you see your boy/girlfriend (if you aren't married or cohabitating)?

About twice a week.

I like my space, and she respects that.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard, so even though you like your space, it doesn’t mean that you don’t like spending time with her, right? I think sometimes I just have this hard-coded idea in my head that it’s mutually exclusive. I know it’s ridiculous. But it subconsciously translates into “I don’t want to see you every day because I don’t care about you” which is very unfair to him, I think.

@hurtntired, nope, not at all. I’m just the kind of person that likes alone time… and a lot of it. I do enjoy seeing her, of course, and the pleasure I take in solitude does not negate the pleasure I get from her (and my other friends/family members).

Once a month (long-distance).

We attend the same university and arrange to meet throughout the week. On Mondays and Wednesdays, we have class together when I get out of work. Sometimes we are able to hang out together on Thursdays after my class ends. When I clock out on Fridays, we spend the rest of the evening together. We have spent nearly every weekend together since the beginning of our relationship.

Both of us are clingy by nature.

Two or three times a week. I love to see him and love our time together. He’s a lot of fun. But more than that and I’ll start getting cabin fever. I’m introverted by nature and recharge by spending time alone. When he gives me the space I need, I’m happier to see him and more relaxed and loving. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

I see my girlfriend once or twice a week. She is studying for a professional licensing exam; I have custody of my two kids. We’re both very busy. We do communicate a lot- emails, facebook, texts, phone calls.

I wish we could see each other more often, but our lives don’t allow it right now.

@Haleth, the problem with me is that I actually do get cabin fever myself if I see him too much, but yet I still have this somewhat innate need (or so I think) to see him more often. But I think that seeing him more often is exactly the reason why I got really moody today about him NOT coming over tonight and I wanted to bite his head off. I stopped short of it though because I realized how ridiculous I was being.

For people like you and @Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard who like your alone time, does that also mean that you don’t talk on the phone to your SO? This relationship has taught me tons about the meaning of being alone and getting alone time, and I’m definitely better at giving him his space now than I was at the beginning of our relationship, but I’m still learning about how to give and receive space without taking it personally and thinking someone doesn’t care about me…

@hurtntired, we text pretty much every day. Neither of us are “phone” people, so we’re both fine with that. We know that our affections are genuine, and we just don’t need constant contact to validate it. Some people are comfortable with that, and some aren’t. You’ve just got to learn to handle it if you aren’t.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard, I’m basically learning to be UN-comfortable with it. :) It’s painful but worth it to me because I’d still rather spend 1 day a week with him than 24/7 with someone I didn’t feel the same way for. It just gets really aggravating sometimes.