Should my boyfriend and I take a break?

I think you are very wise to consider taking a break until you both get your problems worked out and under control. A relationship (in which you are just dating and not in a long term committed marriage-like situation) is just going to be one more thing that you have to “deal with” while you are working on your problems.

You could make some type of agreement that you will break up for now, and then check in in about 6 months to see if you are both ready to get back together at that time. Good luck to you : )

if you do take a break, remember, getting back together won’t be easy and you won’t feel the same as you used to. sometimes it’s better to let go.

When you are not right with yourself, you have nothing to give to a relationship. Focus on getting yourself well and whole, and encourage him to do the same thing.

The only thing worse than being miserable by yourself is being miserable with someone and feeling responsible for their happiness, when you can manage happiness for yourself. Kind of like going to a party when you’re running a fever and throwing up, and having people complain that you’re “not being any fun.”

I guess it depends on the relationship. If it was already pretty well established and serious, then one thinks that you’d want to “be there for each other” and help your partner over the rough spots. But if you’re just starting out, and unsure of each other, then it’s probably best not to attempt to form “a relationship” when you’re not each ‘yourself’. That is, you don’t want his perception of you to be colored by the ‘you’ that he sees who is depressed and/or otherwise unwell, ill, or however else one describes your current condition.

Personally, if I were his age and you were my girlfriend, I’d never want to be far from someone who picked such an adorable screen name. But maybe that’s just me.

If the two of you can’t go through this together you don’t have much of a loving relationship. My guess is that you just want to break up and think “taking a break” is an easy way to do that.

If you want the relationship to last, and each of you want this to be a long term relationship, then talk about how you have a lot to deal with. And the two of you work that out. But don’t call it “taking a break.” Taking a break is a lot more final than people are willing to admit.

Relationships can be both enriching to your life or toxic. In the end the support of a loved one can be beneficial during emotional and mental challenges. You kinda need to decide if you BF is helping or hurting you.

i think if you love each other then you should stay together just learn how to communicate. and give each other space.