How can I stop being jealous about other women's feet?

This really isn’t about his foot fetish. It’s about the fact that he hid erotic stories from other girls from you. It’s a breech of trust. The object(s) of his desire is secondary.

Are toes the new nose?

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Have you considered walking around the house barefoot? Maybe he just needs you to give him a little more toe.

That is difficult, especially as he is able to stare at girls feet as much as he wishes… it is not as socially unacceptable as staring as a girl’s but or breasts. I really do not know what to say but I do agree with @cprevite to a degree. Again if it were erotic breast stories you would cut him a lot less slack.
But… a positive solution should be sought. Why are your feet not enough to satisfy him? Have they tried really really hard?

Some might think that of all the body parts, the feet are the least attractive so, a woman with nice feet might seem like a rarity to him. With what passes for woman’s shoes and the contorted shapes they seem to permanently impart on feet it might seem refreshing to see nice ones from time to time. Seen a lot of women with hideous feet in my time and can’t help thinking they wore the trendy but crappy shoe just to impress others. It may tell a lot about a woman that didn’t bend to the fashion demands of modern society and thought enough to take care of her feet. them. It can also mean then, she is thoughtful of most other things important. Feet are very important. You whole world is riding on them, literally and figuratively. If your “dogs” are beat odds are your life isn’t far behind.

Do you take care of your feet like this? Have you noticed anything special about those “other feet” he has been admiring?

This isn’t about feet, it’s about him finding something in others that he doesn’t find in you – you have to figure out if he’s supposed to find everything he wants in you (which, to me, isn’t necessary in my relationship, for example – why would I be everything for him all at once?) or if you’re okay with a loving partner (who, btw, doesn’t hide his interactions with others from you – that doesn’t sound loving so there may be more problems here) looking at feet of others – you are more than feet, you will always be more to him than feet.

thanks for all the helpful responses. yeah, i do a lot for him when it comes to feet. When I say a lot, I mean, A LOT. Yeah, I think it has to do with the trust issue, but even if, how am I supposed to change it? How can I trust him again? Im not sure if I do, or what is considered ‘cute feet’ but he says mine are really ‘cute’. He looks at them all the time, I dont feel like he doesnt love me, or my feet, i just dont want him to be into anyone else’s. I understand that obviously you are going to be attracted to other people, that is healthy I think anyways. But what about the messages? He said he has stopped, and I’m trying my hardest not to check up on that, but I am not sure i completely believe him. This is driving a wedge between us. What used to be an amazing, happy relationship with my best friend has turned into this bitter one. I dont want to let go, but I dont know how to get over this.

@anders0002 I’ve been there. If you believe this is something you want to make work, make an effort at trust and give it time. If your feelings don’t improve after half a year, it’s more serious than you thought then.

yeah, its only been a couple months, so im trying! I know hes a great person and worth the time. Im just the type of person who pushes people away when they hurt me, I have a hard time forgiving, but this is different, and I want things to work out.

@anders0002 In a way, that’s how you know when you really want to be with someone.

thats true, and i wish i could be with him completely, im just not. I dont have any trust right now.

seazen-thats ridiculous. I cant believe that people actually think to do that. Man before I started dating this guy, I never thought about my feet, i used to paint my finger nails and not my toenails. now my nails are chewed up and unpainted while my toes have really cute designs. hahah.

@anders0002 seazen-thats ridiculous.

Wow, never heard that before :)

jk Zenni, <muah>

@anders0002 Whoah, not having any trust is a problem – you must have some to move forward.