Severe Childhood Trauma - Any Success Stories?

Cage Girl was just on Oprah recently. She certainly has kept on the straight & narrow after such horrific beginnings.

Would you like personal stories? Because I have one that may or may not be of interest to you.

Not all abuse results in trauma. Just for the record. Yes there is scarring but there are degrees to the scarring of the soul. What I’m referring to here is where the end result is so overwhelming to the child that there is a break, some kind of altering of the personality and the inability to get beyond simply because the self-image was destroyed. There is also an inability to formulate relationships. This might be akin to Reactive Attachment Disorder combined with Complex PTSD.

Yes, everyone has a ‘story.’

The trick is to detatch your idea of ‘self’ from your story.

Everyone must come to understand that whatever has been, has been and it is in the past, no changing anything. By not desiring to change the unchangable one is liberated from their ‘story.’

The first step is to free oneself from feeling victimized on a chronic level. That might have been true at one time, but, again, that is the past and you can choose to step out of any clinging to a sense of victimhood as a source of identity.

You understand that nothing is personal and whatever trauma you experienced was not even about you!

It’s about not living your story anymore.

There is no sense of self in trauma. In effect, the self has been fragmented. So your theory in detaching your idea of self from your story doesn’t apply since the self is already detached from reality and what is playing out is the original break imprinted in the subconsciousness that exists devoid of self. The state of pre-natal and post-natal initial trauma pre-date stories – there are only imprints.

this feels like homework to me

or research

There are probably a few people here with stories like that. I know there are. I suppose they would be contacting you privately, if they feel safe enough to do that. Good luck.

@bluestarkachina

What I am saying is to detatch from creating an identity out of ’ my sad story’ and how unfair, wrong and unjust my circumstance has been, poor me!

I am saying one is not their story.

I don’t believe that your theory is correct. But perhaps you can offer some concrete evidence to support your theory based on your own personal experience of being raised as a feral child, subjected to rape, molestations, being in terrorist attacks, living in a warzone and emerging from that with a complete reversal of one’s story.

Just as a reminder – the question I posited here – Severe Childhood Trauma – Any Success Stories?

Am looking for any kind of reference to someone, somewhere, at any time who had severe childhood trauma – repeated throughout childhood then in later life, that actually was able to heal through some kind of modality or miracle.

I am not looking for advice , rhetoric or unbased theories.. Thanks again.

@bluestarkachina

The methodology, psychologically and spiritually remains the same regardless of degree.

Acceptance of what is/has been

An understanding that one is not responsible for others abuses

The understanding, on a deep level, that nothing is ever personal

Dropping a ‘victim’ attitude and taking charge of ones thoughts, dropping the identification with the ‘story.’

An attitude of ’ why not me’ instead of ‘why me.’ Meaning that human pain happens and we are not personally exempt or singled out as part of some conspiracy between God and the universe.

The understanding that pain happens but suffering is optional and we have the strength, courage and faith in ourselves and our higher power to not just overcome but to grow and thrive through our experiences/adversities.

Understanding that ALL pain is human pain and the only variation is in the story.

Does a cut finger hurt any more or less than a cut toe?

No. Pain is pain and it is safe to say that whatever the source, the severity, it has been experienced by many others and therefore takes away any sense of uniqueness in how it shows up.

When one compares ‘stories’ they realize that it is all ONE story, with slight variations.

It is the story of humanity.

You don’t have to believe my ‘theory’, but it is true. I have lived it in my own experiences that were plenty traumatic to me at the time involving working through my past pain and divorcing an abusive person some years ago.

It really IS as simple as accepting the truth and refusing to allow oneself to be controlled by the past.

Change your thoughts, beliefs, change your reality.

Notwithstanding that some are more resilient than others and the journey to healing is unique to the individual and all that goes into that, from a psychological, physiological, biological and conditioning place.

OK – I guess I just need to bow out with this. I guess there is no one on earth who ever recovered that anyone here is aware of. – with no one pin-pointing one single person throughout history who went from acute Complex PTSD to being happy, productive and fully functioning. Take care. Hope people will learn how to read the actual question posited. Eventually,

@bluestarkachina

I just did!

I ‘suffered’ PSTD related issues during a horrible divorce situation and I have expressed my recovery methods.

Again, everyone is different, and the bottom line is this.

If you arn’t really READY to change your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and drop the ‘victim’ identity you will remain stuck forever.

I did utilize a year of therapy post divorce, but, the most profound changes came from within.

When the student is ready the teacher appears.

That’s my answer in regards to my healing journey. Accept it or reject it. ;-)

PTSD and COMPLEX PTSD are 2 separate things. As a rule, unless I’ve missed documentation – no one as made a complete recovery from COMPLEX PTSD You might want to research the topic of pre-natal – post-natal trauma and the fragmented core self that results within the abstract of COMPLEX PTSD. It’s named COMPLEX for a reason. What happens AFTER age 3 is completely different and may be turned around.

@bluestarkachina

If your ‘story’ says that complete recovery is not possible, then it won’t be.

Good luck in finding the answers you seek.

As my handle says I am symptom free from a disastrous childhood and serious Complex PTSD. It is possible with daily work and discovering who you really are. Now, I have a blog for daily support for others on their journey.
http://ptsdawayout.wordpress.com/

My abusive childhood has given me the discipline and perseverance to overcome whatever lies in my path. without the discovery of having complex PTSD I would never healed and found the real me. not only is it possible to heal but the real you without the worry and shame and unworthiness is absent.

My life is lived in the present moment without thought or judgment. things and people can exist on their own. My ego serves me now and I direct my attention to the zillion opportunities available right here right now. join me.