Do you back down from arguments or are you a "raging bull"?

I’ve learned to compromise :-/

I usually stand my ground until proven wrong. I don’t yell or scream, I say what I have to say and stay quit while the other tries to convince or prove that I’m wrong. If I really do believe that I’m right, I usually never change my mind. This annoys my friends a little because they want me to debate and to argue…But I hate arguing…

I usually try to avoid arguments but if I can’t I’m going to stand my ground. If I’m in the wrong, I accept responsibility of my actions and apologize.

I don’t let it get to that point.

I really, reeeeally hate for people to be upset with me, so I am almost always the one who apologizes.

I no longer engage in shouting matches. When I was a young teen-ager and feeling very insecure, I had to be right. Once I lost a good friend in sixth grade over an argument of the location of the NYC Museum of Natural History. I was correct, but she was furious.

Now I always let it go. Who cares?

Depends if it’s worth it or not.

I will express my feelings, but, I don’t waste time anymore on those that are too insecure to actually HEAR me without going into hyper defensive mode. Gah!

Depends on the argument.

Part of the maturation process is learning to pick your battles.

It depends on how strongly I feel about an issue as to whether I rage like the bull or just let sh*t go. I, too, have reached an age where compromise is more appealing than the rise in blood pressure, and pounding in my ears when I feel strongly about something. I have been known to hold my own in any argument, but these days, I do pick my battles.

If the argument is going around and around the same points I leave it. Or, if the other party is escalating beyond a point that I feel comfortable with then I leave it. Nothing makes much sense at that point. I wait for everything to calm down and then talk about it the next day.

I find this process efficient.

Raging Bull.It’s more fun that way.;)

@YoBob is correct.

An emotional mature person understands how, why and when to argue.

I rarely argue at all. I do disagree, but I don’t make a point of taking my disagreement to the next level unless there’s a reason for it.

You can stand your ground without losing your cool. So you’re presenting us with a false dichotomy.

Hey @SpatzieLover , where you been, Girl?

@IchtheosaurusRex i have checked in many times, but not stayed. it’s winter and i had some time ;) to write…missed your fishy face! :)

Depends on what the argument is about for me. If it’s an important principle or value, I’d go the whole hog. If it’s trying to convince someone that their ridiculous old wives’ tale is wrong, walk away.

@IchtheosaurusRex No, I gave two opposing ends of the scale. The purpose being to encourage responders to fill in the blanks, as it were.

I weigh what my part in the argument is worth to me, how much of an interest in the other’s person’s opinion or whatever I have vested. I’d rather “give up to win” and save myself irritation and distraction from things I feel are more important. This doesn’t mean I agree with what I don’t believe or support though, it means I decide it’s ok to disagree and then move on.

I used to be the raging bull. Now, I prefer to handle things in a more mature way. I’m not going to yell and argue. If someone can’t talk to me in a reasonable manner, I have feet, I can walk away.

My husband and I do that to each other if one of us is elevating the argument. Either that, or he makes me smile. Which drives me batty.

In my personal life I try not to argue, but rather discuss. Professionally, I often have to put forth a strong argument.

Best resolution ever: The fight after the wagon wheel coffee table incident in ‘When Harry Met Sally.

Start around 2:00. I love that hug.

It depends on the argument, but I am for sure a raging bull. I am in debate club at my university and I’m one of those who cannot give up.