What do you do when a friend flakes on you?
So today me and a friend were supposed to go job hunting today. We had this planned for a little more than a week and she’s the one who asked me if I wanted to go.
Anyway, Our plan was for both of us to take the bus and meet up at the mall at 9:00am. I woke up at 5:40am this morning, took a shower, make-up, clothes, and got as pretty as I could get. It took me about 2½hours. Literally minutes after being DONE getting ready, she sends me a message saying she’s not feeling very good and wont be able to go. Keep in mind she was also up around the same time I was and it took her more than 2 HOURS to tell me she’s not feeling very good?.....So now I’m home, dressed to go out, and not doing anything…...................What would you do in this situation?
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I would go out and look for work without her.
As for the friendship, it would depend on if this behavior was an anomaly or a pattern. In the case of the latter, I might end the friendship.
Yea, she asked if we could postpone until next week…I told her I’ll see if I’m not busy…I dont think I’ll go next week.
Shit happens, just go by yourself. Was it a hang out day, or do you want a job?
I brush it off of me and tell him or her to use some Head & Shoulders.
Well it was more of a hang out day than a job search because we weren’t really sure how many job applications we’d get since a lot of place’s only accept applications online now..I’ve already applied for about 6 or 7 jobs online now, and I only have 2 applications on me that were printed out.
We were planning on going to the mall and asking around there and also the stores around the mall and downtown, hopefully a few would have applications, but we weren’t expecting much…but it was still trying…I didn’t want to go by myself tho…
@erichw1504 Ahhh I get it! Clever.
Yeah if it doesn’t happen regularly, don’t stop being friends with him just for this. Maybe he wasn’t sure just how bad he felt until after a couple hours. I’ve often gotten up, had breakfast and showered before I realized that I felt like crap. Or maybe his nausea was at bay then he started puking when it was time to leave.
Go without him, you have a better chance of getting a job if you aren’t bringing along your own competition anyway.
Could it be an anxiety issue honey? Your friend has maybe gotten a bit nervous about actually asking face to face about possible jobs? It can be terrifying, I remember when I last went job hunting, some places were downright nasty. Cut her a bit of slack on this, but maybe mention when you next talk that you had spent so long getting ready to go, and that you were relying on her too. Safety in numbers, that kind of thing. It’s all about communication honey, talk to your friend, so that she knows how you feel and maybe she’ll tell you why she cancelled. If she was ill, well, thats not her fault, but if it was nerves, maybe you can help? Good luck on the job search sweetheart, hugs xx
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