So, she's taking antidepressants, now what?

I think that I would show her the pill and ask her if she is on medication.

BTW, I don’t blame her for not telling someone she has only been dating for two months.

You have only been dating for two months and while I don’t know how serious things are between you, that isn’t a long time. Perhaps she has had a bad experience in terms of telling people she suffers from depression in the past? Perhaps she is only newly diagnosed and is still coming to terms with it herself? Perhaps she just feels her medical history is her business and since it shouldn’t affect you, it isn’t something she needs to share?

Why do you feel you had to know this? How will it affect your relationship with her? If it won’t at all… why did she have to tell you?

I think 2 months in, you should allow some room on this one. Depression is tricky. Mental Health is tricky. You never know how someone else is going to deal with a revelation of anything related to the topic.

Also, there are sometimes when anti-depressants are prescribed for other reasons. I was on Effexor (spelling?) for migraines. It had nothing to do with mental health. You could be leaping to an opinion on something before you know all the details.

You’re being lame. You’ve only been dating for 2 months. She might be on antidepressants for a specific reason that she’s not ready to discuss with someone she hasn’t been serious with for that long. It might be something she’s not interested in discussing at all.

It’s also very possible that the depression is completely related to body chemistry only and not any sort of event or situation and taking a daily antidepressant is a lot like taking a multivitamin every day—habit—and not really worth thinking about or mentioning. Should she also tell you if she takes an allergy pill every day? Or an iron supplement?

Like @cak pointed out—she might be taking it for something other than depression. Maybe she’s quitting smoking, has headaches, or restless leg syndrome or ADHD.

It’s the kind of thing where if she wants you to know about it, she’ll tell you. It’d be important if you’d been together for years or were getting ready to move in together or get married, but two months into a relationship? Not worth worrying about.

Perhaps the fact that she has a mental health issue is why she didn’t tell you….maybe?

I agree with everyone above. You’ve only been dating for two months now, it’s not a big deal. Some people don’t like to admit that they take antidepressants because it may feel like a failure or a fault to admit it. If she wants to tell you, she will. Take a pill of your own and chillax about it. I personally like my combination of Wellbutrin and Xanax. :P

Maybe she didn’t tell you because she sensed that youre controlling and judgmental?

Her medication is her business. If I were dating someone who had a reaction like the one you expressed here, that would be a fast end to the relationship.

Yes, you are being lame. If this was a two year relationship it would be different. This is a part of her life she has not shared with you in two whole months—so what!?!?!

I agree with the responses above and want to point out that as the one actually taking the SSRIs in my relationship, it’s not something that I would just tell someone lightly, especially if I had only been dating this person for 2 months. I’ve actually been dating my boyfriend for quite a while and he knows I take pills, but he never asks what they are for and I don’t really feel that it’s necessary in our relationship for me to tell him. I’m not lying to him, because the pill doesn’t make me a different person. I’m just not keen on being all public with such information. He has taken medications that I’ve found in his drawers (not intentionally, just while staying at his place and using the bathroom and looking for Q-tips and things like that) and he doesn’t tell me what they’re for. And I don’t ask him. If anything, I just Google them because I’m curious. I do tell people that I’m on thyroid medication occasionally, but even that is not something I just go around telling people.

It’s nobody’s business but the patient who is taking the medication. If it’s something more serious like cancer or HIV then obviously the partner/significant other has more of a right to know, but these types of things are sensitive and you should be sensitive to the fact that it’s a sensitive subject.

You are being lame. It’s just a medication like any other medication. If you found a cholesterol medication would you confront her about it? Same difference.

OMG…..you should never tell anyone cept your physicians what rx you take. Antidepressants label you as crazy….or unstable. It shows weakness.

@Rarebear is so on it. Get over it now.

Your being lame. Her meds aren’t any of your business unless shes on something addictive and acting weird or stealing from you. She probably didn’t tell you because a lot of people who haven’t been on psych meds have preconceived notions that the person is crazy or damaged. Maybe something bad happened to her in the past or she is depressed without them. As long as she is good to you I don’t think it should be an issue. I take zoloft. I don’t tell most people and they can’t tell anyways. I think a lot more people could benefit from an antidepressant.

@jazmina88: How exactly, does it show weakness? Wouldn’t seeking treatment for whatever the person was seeking treatment for show strength? Like I said, I took anti-depressants for a different reason, some time ago. At that time, I wasn’t being treated for depression, for non-stop migraines.

Guess this shows how far we behind we still are on some treatments.