Why do some women flirt with every man they see?

Will go with Occam’s Razor on this one. Some woman flirt with every man they see because they like to and they can.

I agree with the self-esteem thing, because my ex was like that. She was a late bloomer in high school, her face could be considered mannish without the hair and other feminine things about her broadcasting she was a girl(she cut her hair very short at one point, had smallish breasts, and she had gained weight losing her waist-hip ratio, I swear she could have passed as a guy that way). But also consider that she may have sexually abusive history. My ex was abused by her father when she was 10, and the emotional issues she carried from that caused her to behave rather irrationally towards men in general.

I worked with a girl like that once, who also slept with half the guys there.

Perhaps she is just a flirt and doesn’t realize that her behavior is off putting to some. Perhaps she does, in fact, have self esteem issues and flirts to get any sort of attention she possible can. Or perhaps she’s like the girl I worked with, and she’s a ho. LOL

You must be young. The world is full of this kind of validation-seeking female. Get ten women together and you’ve got one of these nutjobs.

@perspicacious is right. Women (and men) that flirt are everywhere. Could be a lack of self esteem and/or a need for attention. Maybe they just like to flirt. Perhaps she is deluded and thinks it makes her more popular? Maybe it has just become a habit? I suppose if she (or other flirts) isn’t/aren’t doing anyone any harm…does it matter? Of course, without knowing her, it’s really impossible to say why this one individual behaves this way.

I have noticed, when my husband talks to attractive women, his voice automatically drops an octave… he denies it profusely of course. It makes me laugh. So perhaps her bf is aware it is part of her nature and also is fine with it as long as she goes home to him and isn’t doing more than flirt. Some say flirting is healthy for a relationship.

@perspicacious: I’m a female and I don’t need or seek out validation from others, but I find it hilarious to witness this same woman every week as she’s up to the same antics. I just shake my head and laugh and when men have tried to engage me while I’ve been there, I’m civil, but when they’re openly flirted with me, I haven’t reciprocated, as I know I wasn’t interested.

I don’t lead men that I’m not interested in on, just for the sake of validating my own ego, whereas this woman does and has. This woman would reciprocate flirting with any man that walked in and it also makes many question if she does more than just flirt with them.

@nunyabiz2011 OK. But why are you so interested in it? To talk about it is just gossiping, you know. All grown women are aware of these nuts.

@nunyabiz2011 I can see that you are bothered on some level about it, and reading between the lines can only assume that she treats you in some way as inferior, that you can’t garner as much attention as her, when in truth you do not want it.
If I am off on that, then perhaps you do not feel like you could get that much attention? There is obviously some sub-conscious issue that is having a hard time expressing itself, that you have with this woman flirting like this, and behaving in such a manner.
The fact is, flirtatious behavior is not morally wrong, nor is it cheating on her boyfriend. Actually having sex outside of a relationship she has committed to with another is between that other, herself and the one she cheated with. If it bothers you that much, you always have the option of getting involved by telling her boyfriend what you see, but otherwise I suggest trying to leave it alone, unless she IS treating you poorly in some fashion, in which case I advise you to get to the real root of the problem, and deal with that. This obsession with another woman’s flirty behavior is either jealousy or a reaction to a deeper message she may be sending you, that you may be picking up on without being aware of the message. In other words, if she is competing with you for the role of ‘Prime Female’ at the office, or subconsciously trying to pick YOU up with her behavior, knowing at the least why you feel the way you do about it is the first step to really solving the problem you really have, which is how much her flirtatious behavior bothers you.

Why do some men flirt with every woman they see?

@abaraxadac: No, it doesn’t go any deeper than finding it ridiculous that someone’s worth is affirmed by others. I see this on a weekly basis and I know for a fact that I haven’t seen any guy that she flirts with that I’m interested in. I don’t base my worth on what others deem as acceptable, I know it. This post is merely about people like her that base their value and opinion of themselves on what others think of them.

I know we live in a shallow society and the majority swim in that shallow end. I don’t feel any need to tell her bf, as I’m sure he knows already. However, it is obvious that she only prefers to deal with men and her job involves dealing with men and women. If and when I have to interact with her, I keep any conversation as brief as possible, as she easily gets distracted by every man that walks in. It bothers me when people can’t do their job completely, because their being scatter brained due to their constant need for attention.

And then on another note, being that the resounding answer seems to be that this is a self-esteem issue, than it wouldn’t be something that these type of people need to fix internally? Yes, healthy flirting is harmless and healthy, but when it’s consuming, I truly think it’s like a deeper issue. It’s something that they’re lacking in their life, within themselves, if they feel they need this type of reassurance from everyone that they’re seeking it from.

@nunyabiz2011 Whether or not it is an internal issue is for the person who deals with it to decide. If the woman you are speaking of enjoys being a flirt and has no negative experiences with it, likely she would not care to change. Just because you think it is a problem does not mean she does, and she certainly doesn’t have to on the grounds socially acceptable people don’t do it as much or like that. Okay, she might have insecurity issues, but when you start talking about her ‘needing’ to fix something, internally or otherwise, try keep a short leash on yourself. Walking around thinking about what other people need to fix with themselves is a short road to extreme unhappiness, as your mental superiority bleeds out of you, others can’t stand to be around you, and no one else changes anyway. The only person in the end that you personally can say NEEDS to change is yourself. Any other logic will send you nowhere, and perhaps to hell while your at it.

Some do it because they are attention whores and always need people to be paying attention to them, in one way or another.

@abaraxadac: I choose to post this initially as I wanted to find out why some people are so attention-hungry. I don’t need to fix anything regarding to your response, as this post was NOT about me, but about someone who flirts with every male within her sights. Furthermore, I’m not the only who shares the sentiment, prior to my even noticing who she was, some guys were talking about her and her hickeys on her neck. That’s how I noticed her initially and then after having to interact with her, it made me think back to what those guys had talked about (out loud to one another). You can take that same bit of advice and use the CHANGE, as this post was NOT about me, but you seem to be attempting to make it personal. And, your bit of logic can do the same for you:)

The way you’ve described this person I’d almost categorize her less as a person with an ego or insecurity issue “nutjob” as some have categorized her and more a potentially diagnosable nymphomaniac.

Or perhaps she’s not a nympho but she’s simply not as sexually repressed as the rest of America tends to be but doesn’t have the logic or understanding that would enable her to grasp workplace boundaries with regard to who/how she and her boyfriend take home in their menage style &/or open relationship.

@nunyabiz2011 point taken, noted, absorbed, and thought on. Thank you. I would like to rebut that you are on a message board discussing the matter, which will gain you answers from those who assume because of the environment that you care what they think. I guess I do have a bit of a short stick for people I see as intolerant for another person’s way of life, but I feel free to express that point of view here, where the board seems designed for intelligent discourse back and forth. I would not go up to you on the street, and tell you what I think you should do if you did not indicate first that you would like my input.
And having other people around you that feel the same way is not necessarily justification for feeling like she needs to change. Half the country could think that she needs to change, but they would in my opinion all of them be wrong together if she was happy with herself, being that way in her life.
With all that, I would like to express my appreciation for your candor and restraint, as I can kind of tell I upset you a little bit and you still gave me a smiley face;)

@abaraxadac: You’re welcome. It’s what makes this world go round, everyone has different views and perspectives. I don’t feel I’m being intolerant, I’m simply expressing my disdain for those that choose to seek out attention. It’s kind of like begging, it’s not cute. You didn’t upset me, but I can tell that you wanted to drive your point home. I learned long ago, that you can’t please everyone and most times, it’s best to agree to disagree:)