Personally, I don’t believe there is such a thing as “true love.” I think that you can fall in love with someone, and also love other people. You could even feel those “falling” feelings for more than one person at once.
Love is not a zero-sum game, I think. Love builds. It’s not like you only have so much love in your body or soul, and with that is poured into one person, there’s no room for anyone else.
I think love can be healing. Very healing. I know it has saved me, and when I try to give my best responses to questions here, it is the love to try to help folks heal that drives me. It’s not like that for all questions for me, but it is for many, and sometimes there are a dozen of us doing the same thing—all for someone we don’t know, and in a way, we are all loving each other at the time.
Practicality, though, is an important issue. It’s difficult to have long distance relationships. It’s difficult to love someone for any length of time without expressing that love physically (well, it is for me).
I think that anyone who can tell you what love is is deluded. Love is probably different for every person. If you think it is love, it is love. If you let other people persuade you that it wasn’t love, then it wasn’t love.
What are the signs of love? When you think about someone whenever you have a spare moment, and it brings a smile to your face and a tingle to your body. When you look for their face first wherever you are meeting. When you want to share all your secrets, knowing they will understand. When you want to show them all your favorite things When you want to get away and be on your own with them whenever possible. When you love talking to them. When are excited to be in their presence, when you feel great compassion for them, when you want them to do whatever is best for them, even if it is not good for you….
Ok, those are my signs. Your signs may be different. Don’t measure yourself against my standards. It is best to ask people what was happening when they thought they were in love; not for any absolute standard. Ain’t none of those.