How should I handle a friend situation?

I guess try to find out first why they exluded you. Maybe you are worrying about nothing and they just forgot about what they promised. If for other reasons. Then just try to tell them how you feel and also accept why they decided not to include you.

You don’t want to call them back or you don’t want to consider about the ideea of moving with them ?

Did they know you wanted to go back to your home state? Have you mentioned it to them recently? If you are upset about it, talk to them. It will only fester if you don’t and perhaps it was just an oversight and they just didn’t think you would come back.

I have to say that maybe their intentions were not bad. Perhaps they thought that actually getting the apartment would persuade you to move back?! People don’t always think ahead and that’s probably all that happened here. If they’re true friends they’ll understand how you feel, so tell them. If they don’t perhaps you’re better off…

@mar5pa, can you clarify whether or not your friends are moving in together without the intention of having you live there with them, or is the situation that they picked an apartment for the three of you without consulting you?

I would chalk it up to you are still living out of state, they found a place that holds 3 people at an affordable rent and took it. It would be different if you quit your job, moved back home, found another job, and they excluded you. Your plans don’t seem definite, but rather wishful thinking on your part.

If you’re planning on moving back home, you probably need to do that first, and then worry about moving in with friends.

If your two friends left you out of searching for an apartment, they will leave you out of just about everything else, associated with the apartment, except your money.

Apparently, they live close together. Could they have handled the apartment and wanted to surprise you?

You need more answers from them, before making a move you could be sorry for.

I wouldn’t be too mad about it.You are living in another state now.How was this arrangement supposed to happen with you not even living there?
I’d call them up and congratulate them. ;)

Better to find out now than to invest a bunch of time and money into moving in with them, then be doubly hurt when the excluded you in front of your face. We grow up and move on. It hurts sometimes. It sucks sometimes, and sometimes those heart breaks lead you in amazing directions you never imagined.
Have a good cry, then figure out where you will go from here.

You should handle it through communication. So many relationships are ruined because of misunderstandings that a simple conversation clear up. Don’t let go of long-term friends over what may very well amount to nothing. Good friends are not easy to find. Talk to them!

I don’t see the problem. Do you trust their judgement? Maybe you should see the place first. Depending on the area, the cost of living at there in the new neighborhood, sometime you have to get a great deal when it is available. Maybe the issue is that you wasn’t ready to move without be given proper notice or time plan.

I think you should try reaching them by phone and setting up a date to see them and then explain your feelings about the situation.

If they’re your friends, then they should understand you not wanting to move in with them anymore. I’m kinda in a similar situation right now.