How can you avoid the 'butterfly feeling' ?

Just enjoy it. It doesn’t happen all the time. It means that what is happening matters to you very much.

Rather than try to get rid of it, why not simply enjoy it, along with every other emotional and physical response that love brings? It’s called being alive.

It makes me feel scared, for some weird reason.

@Austinlad @wundayatta I was thinking enjoy it too. Does this mean we’re old?

I think if you understand what it is and that it is normal, that will take some of the scaredness out of it. You want him badly, and you’re scared he might not like you. It’s ok. This matters, but that doesn’t mean that if you fail, it will be the end of the world. It might be the end of the world for a while, but then you’ll discover the world will go on.

It’s kind of hard to gain this perspective, but I think that just knowing what we’ve told you will help.

I know how you feel, Luiveton. Those specific butterflies that swarm when you’re around your guy are a bit different from the butterflies that happen in other situations. They were/are always exciting for me, but they also meant that I wasn’t in complete control of myself. My senses were altered in a way that made me feel vulnerable. If you can enjoy the feelings, do. If you can’t, see if you can visualize yourselft as somehow controlling the release of the butterflies.

@wundayatta It’s just that weird things have been going on lately, like even my friend noticed he keeps staring, and he just ignores me whenever I come around. I don’t know why this scares me too

Sounds like he’s shy. If you like him, you may have to take initiative. If you don’t like him then it makes you very uncomfortable when you catch him looking. That could also have the same effect. Nervousness and fear.

As to why? It could be something you are picking up intuitively and it feels dangerous. What’s his reputation? Is he creepy? Stalkeresque?

I do like him =\
No he’s really nice, he’s just too shy I guess

Deep, conscious breathing.
The main focus of all meditative practice.

When one focuses their attention on breath it stops thought and calms the mind and body.

Aw that is such a lovely feeling. It shows you care about him.
Just enjoy what is happening to you. It won’t last forever

Try not to worry about it too much.It might help you to know that others are usually more worried about themselves,;)
When I get nervous,it always helped me to try and deep breathe.
Try this next time.:)

For some odd reason that butterfly feeling always makes me smile. It lets me know I still have sensitive emotions. btw you aren’t pregnant, are you?

@AmWiser Nope

You could get past it @Luiveton by flirting with him or asking him out.

Okay I know I’m adding a question here, but right now I seriously feel so crappy. You know when you like someone so much you feel angry at them or blame them for something that probably SLIGHTLY annoyed you. But it wasn’t important, like at all.
I seriously need help on how to calm down and control my feelings, I try telling myself that it’s not his fault. Help?

Maybe you are just really sexually attracted to this guy for some reason? More so than another you’ve come across?

I’d try to relax and breathe as @lucillelucillelucille suggested (i do that to when I get too worked up about something)

I’m not sexually attracted to him, I just get pissed off easily at him for no reason

Oh. Sorry I mistook that.

Does he bring out the worst in you then (like your mind races besides the butterflies?) by what he says or what he does?

It’s just that I’m not sure anymore. Everytime I start to feel better again, and stop liking him, I just start liking him again. It’s crazy. He probably does, but mentally you know ? Like he talks to everyone else but me; even my friend noticed that, I was talking to him, he definitely heard me but chose to ignore. Same thing happened today; He simply looks away.

Errrrrgh! I get it now. I remember those days. So it’s upsetting, annoying and attracting to you all at once.

I’d hit my mental ignore button as soon as I’d enter a room with him in it, if I were you. He may be into playing games. That’d be too immature and unattractive for me.

To get over the butterflies, try your best to refocus your mental energy on something else entirely. (is this at school? or?)

@Luiveton…maybe he thinks you don’t like him? Because of your butterflies, do you refrain from speaking to him, or walk away? Someone I liked (but got intense butterflies around) hardly ever talked directly to me when there was a break or something in class…I used to think it was him disliking me, but then I realized that I would clam up (mainly due to my being shy). Also, at times he would hit a nerve and I would be so irked at him (but only until he made me laugh again, which usually didn’t take long…) Then one day I started talking to him more and things totally changed…