Why is it that eating and drinking in large groups is the preferred way for most to celebrate things?
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March 9th, 2011
That is the worst of all worlds to me, anyway. My wife is finally getting this. Last Father’s Day, I went to the ball game alone. I sat in my seat, with my name on it (yes, it really does have my name on it) that is generally away from where the crowd likes to sit. I sat there, alone, and watched the boys do their thing. I went home, and there was a note saying that my gift is her and my daughter were staying the night at my wife’s moms house so I could have the evening alone. BEST CELEBRATION EVER!!!! Not saying my way is right and group parties are wrong, but I just never understood that. Especially those who like to do stuff like that with complete strangers, like on dinner cruises or community dance parties. (This coming from a guy who spent 10 years or so in a polka band playing many of these community dances). Any insight would be nice, as it is more of a curious thing, not a “judgemental, YOU’RE ALL WRONG” thing.
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hmm, and I thought I was a creature of solitude…
I guess most people like to socialise and have their space filled up with potential friends, unlike people like you or me who prefer not to have their space invaded.
I hope I’m not intruding by answering this question. :-)~
I would venture to guess that most people are used to being around groups like families and work groups. Therefore, when it comes to celebrations, they prefer to include everyone they can think of.
It’s an old cliche that humans are social animals, but I think it’s true. People are more inclined to feel at home in a group.
This is not to say that solitude is a bad thing or wrong in any way. I’m merely trying to answer the question.
Eating in groups is a celebration of bounty dating from caveman times.
Celebrating with family and friends provides shared good times.
Celebrating with strangers is a n opportunity to meet new people.
I love my time alone, but when it comes to celebrating a birthday or something like that, I prefer to be in a smaller group of people who mean the most to me. It’s a happy occasion – why not share it with others who make you happy?
It would be too weird to be alone and laugh at your farts.
People like to share their good feelings with others, preferably friends because it feels like it grows and go round and round. I’m one of those people.
Eating [and drinking?] are basic needs that can be enjoyably shared in small-to-large groups and not as controversial as sex in large groups.
Your idea of having a self-party sounds like an anit-social problem.
This is what your family and friends are for.
We celebrate in groups to meet and see our friends and family members we have not seen for many months or years.
I am not this way. I want my friends and family around me all the time, not just on my birthday.
@john65pennington I do appreciate what you say, but trust me, it wouldn’t be classified as a problem. More like a choice. I do hope you enjoy your group time, nothing wrong with that at all. :-)
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