My whole family is an extremely happy series of accidents.
Wife’s sister, mother of twins, was widowed when they were four. When they were seven, she brought them from Texas to visit us in Atlanta just after New Years. She asked if she could leave the twins with us for a couple weeks, while she went back to Texas to “take care of some business”.
One year later: twins are still visiting, SIL fell off the map. We move from Georgia to Colorado for several reasons, one being the difference in each state’s child welfare laws. We obtained legal custody of the twins.
Two years after that: SIL showed up, and asked us to help her find residential rehab in Colorado…done! She’s in rehab, and is diagnosed bi-polar.
She met a man in rehab who had been there as an adjudication (it was part of his sentence or probation). She fell for him, they both fell off the wagon and out of rehab, and hit the street in a drug-enhanced lifestyle.
At some point we found out she was pregnant by this guy. Shortly after, they fell off the map again, and we had no idea if she was well, still pregnant, getting prenatal care; we were very concerned about her, and her unborn child.
A few weeks later, we found her, she was slightly malnourished. Seemed to have refrained from serious drugs while pregnant. We took her in, took care of her and saw to it that she received the proper prenatal care; we hadn’t heard anything from baby-daddy, and frankly didn’t worry about him. It was all about the baby.
We realized that when the time came for her to deliver she would be in no condition to care for the child. At one point, my wife had convinced her that she was going to sign custody over to us immediately. We helped her through the pregnancy and at 5 weeks premature, she delivered. Baby-daddy was nowhere to be seen.
At about five weeks before term, SIL gave birth to a 5 pound baby girl. She was a premie, and her lungs were slightly under-developed, but she was healthy, had all fingers and toes! I held her for hours that first day of her life. I rocked her, I sang to her, I talked to her, I promised her that I would do everything I could to enable her to safely grow up into her true potential.
We were granted immediate custody, first as foster-family, and about a year later the adoption was official.
Afterword: SIL cleaned up after that, but I think her judgment and mental/emotional health was permanently impaired by her years of hard drug abuse, coupled with her psych and emotional issues. The state placed her into a mental health group home, pleasant enough, until she passed in her sleep several years ago. Baby-daddy (sperm donor) moved on, never to look back. Heard he passed a couple years ago from heart attack. I didn’t particularly like him when I met him, and I couldn’t support his choice of lifestyle, but I will always be grateful that his mistake brought me such a wonderful gift!
That gift is now 15, has her father wrapped around her little finger (or so she imagines!). Every time she achieves or surpasses another goal, I like to think it has something to do with a promise I made many years ago.