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Holy Christ, people! You’re all acting as if there is some kind of dating futures market, and one boy is replaceable by another. Just pass this one by, flip him the bird, say goodbye, and get rid of him. And all we’re talking about is texting someone? Sending them a picture?
He says that he’s with her and you all judge him a liar. Sending pictures is beyond the pale. Summary judgment. Wipe him off the fucking map!
These are people! Two people we know next to nothing about and you are all so sure you know what’s going on between them and also with the other chick. We don’t even know their age, or how they know each other, nothing except they’ve been seeing each other a month. And we’re all so smart and know everything.
Small-minded, too. Like a guy can’t have a friend who is a girl? Or he shouldn’t respond to her if she says she likes him? They’ve only been going together a month and already she’s jealous? And she turns to us for good advice and all we do is confirm her prejudices?
I’m almost ashamed to be a jelly. Seems to me that everyone would benefit if we all took a step back and asked for more information. It would also be nice if we could check our biases at the door and give advice based on the situation.
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I think you need more information, OP. You don’t know this guy well at all. It’s too soon to go after him with a machete (or the internet equivalent). You don’t know him well enough to be able to know what he’s about of if he’s lying or anything. Besides which, you’re just dating. Have you signed an agreement to be exclusive yet? Or even talked about it? Do you even love him? Do you feel bubbles and dragonflies in your stomach? Do you wait by the phone? Do you act like a girl?
You’re not helpless. You don’t need us. You need your own brain and your own eyes and you need to make your own decisions because you’re the only one who has any information at all.
You do not need prejudice and stereotype—something that people here seem way too willing to give out, dressed up as advice. I’m sure my fellow jellies won’t agree with me, but I think in a way you are playing with an innocent, ordering her to dump the guy based on a paragraph or two of information. If there were advisor licenses, I think you’d be up before the board of inquiry. It is irresponsible at best, and malicious at worst.
I respect you all, but I think you missed the boat on this one, and I fear that you have forgotten your jobs.