When is the right time to say 'I love you'?

If you cannot see yourself without having him in your life forever and always, it’s very likely that you don’t love him back. Come on, it’s only been a week and a day. I believe that love is possible at your age, but it’s a different sort of love. Give it a few months or so and see if your bond with him grows and develops. You’ll know when you do love him. Take it easy. At 15, you should be getting ready for the great times ahead. Not worrying about love :P

thanks and im all for going slowly with the ‘i love you’ s and stuff but it was a bit scary when he said it for the first time. i have been with other guys and they said i love you straight away and we didnt last any more than 2 months and we now hate eachother but when im with my boyfriend i feel different to what i did with my ex’s. it feels alot more special :)

It’s good that you understand this. I am sure that you’ve seen a lot of people your age who say “I love you” to the person they are dating instantly. That’s not really love right there. That is just going through the motions. I really hope that this relationship does work out for you!

When you do.

When you feel it.
For me,that generally takes a long time.:)

Never. They’re just words, anyway. You could say that to the clerk at 7–11 if you like. No need to take that too seriously, especially at 15.

I think it takes at least 3 months to really get to know someone…..give it some time, it’s only been a week..really get to know each other. No need to rush.

One week seems very early. It is possible that he has loved you for a long time since you have known each other for some years.

The right time? Easy: it’s when you both say it together and interrupt each other to say it, startled and laughing at the same time, with memorable music playing (not too loudly) in the background. Unfortunately, that sort of thing only happens in movies and very carefully rehearsed plays. It’s not so common in real life.

So, the second-best time? That would be having planned to say it within, oh, a minute or two of when the other person said it. In that case, the only surprise is that they said it just before you did (or they were surprised that you beat them by a minute or so).

The worst time? Saying it just before asking for sex. That includes how most teenaged boys say it, so the key thing to watch for is what he does in the minutes, hours and days after saying that. Unfortunately, the second-worst time is saying it way too early and sort of emotionally / socially coercing it from the other party. Awkward.

Good luck to you.

Q: When is the right time to say ‘I love you’?

A: Friday nights, 9:45pm.

When you’re not questioning it.

There really is no magical time when you are supposed to tell him that you love him. When my wife and I met, we started telling each other that we love one another within a couple of weeks. The thing is @rebecca_harris9 I am old enough to be your father. I am not so sure that I would be very happy if at 15, you were telling a boy that you loved him. I have a 3 year-old daughter, and can guarantee, that if I heard her (my daughter at 15 years old) tell a boy that she loved him, I would be questioning it. I was once 15 many many moons ago and I do not think I truly loved a girl until I was in my 20’s. I did tell my girlfriend that I loved her, but it was not anything close to the kind of true love that I feel for my wife. There is a difference to loving someone and being in love with that person. I have a couple of female friends, strictly platonic, who I tell that I love them, but I do not love them the way I love my wife. I love them like a brother would love his sister, or how a father would love his daughter. When you are in love you will just know it. Chalk it up to experience. I hope I have helped you out, and good luck.

There’s another great time to say it, but hopefully you don’t have to find it out too soon.

When you wake up some morning in your forties with a zit and drool on the pillowcase, can’t fasten the waistband of your favorite jeans, have a hair appointment with a new stylist and abhor the result, overdraw the checking account (again), lose your job, forget the kids at soccer practice (in the rain) and have a minor fender-bender on the way home before you burn the dinner—he’d better tell you that he loves you then. More importantly, he’d better prove it.

Some people take the whole idea of saying I love you very seriously. Other people say it all the time and with many different meanings. It could just mean simple affection and liking. Or it could go deeper than that and be more lasting. When I have felt “in love” with someone in the past (there were only a very few I loved deeply) there just came a point when I felt very sure that I knew them in a really deep way. I had seen what kind of person they were, not on the outside, but on the inside where it counts. And knowing them that way made me want to be with them and share things with them that were important to me. I suppose to everyone it may feel a little different. But I think that when you are in love, you know it. You don’t need to think about it, it just is. Then you want to express it to the person you love. Sometimes people hold back and don’t say it out of fear that the other person doesn’t love them back. They are afraid of rejection. This song by James Taylor has always meant a lot to me. It’s a beautiful thought. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d2_0x6TVUJ0&feature=related

what is the name of the song cos my laptop doesnt let me go onto the links

James Taylor-Shower the People check the youtube video at the beacon theater live-it’s a good one!

When you are able to feel comfortable to finally say it. Feeling it and saying it are IMO miles apart and takes a massive leap of faith to be able to finally articulate what your gut and heart have felt up to that moment you say “I love you”. Brutally vulnerable moment.

It is whatever you feel it is. It may be differnet at 16, 21 and 40.
Say, communicate, express whatever it is you feel !!!!

There is more damage done by NOT saying I love you if that is what you feel.

I am happy for you!

More important than worrying about the “right time” is understanding that the phrase will inevitably mean different things at different times. There’s nothing wrong with casual use of the words “I love you” just so long as no one is under the impression that they are being used more seriously.

Since you are both 15, just be aware that saying “I love you” to one another probably means something different than what it means between two people who are at later stages of their life. This is not to say that older people are always mature about how they use these words. There are plenty who are not mature about it at all. But the words convey different levels of commitment based on what can be reasonably expected at different ages.

I remember feeling this way when I was fourteen.. and again at sixteen when the boys said it really quickly. Sometimes I just said it back to avoid hurting their feelings or making for an awkward moment. But, don’t worry, saying it will not harm you or your relationship at this point.