I’m usually the sole killer of my dreams.. I saw on a bathroom wall today a quote something to the tune of, “all of the things I feared would happen never did”. I’m gonna trust myself a bit more, I think.
But, having been down that path, I can see what you mean. I’ve been called a downer lots of times, but I usually just pick back up again. I’m the kind of person who doesn’t learn from my mistakes, you see, at least, I may for a short while, but then I’m back to them.
The last time someone actually called it to my face was at a party after picking cherries for a solid 3 weeks, with 7 hour days starting at 4 a.m., by a girl who wasn’t part of the crew or seemingly had no relation to the party other than the alcohol, who had gotten her keys locked in her truck. Who was the lucky fella who had a coathanger? You guessed it, and while waiting to see if I could get back and salvage the hanger (they aren’t always a dime a dozen anymore) I was trying to assure the gals that it would work ok, and there wasn’t any reason to try to jimmy the lock on the camper on the back of the truck. The one gal came around and told me not to be such a downer, emphatically. She also told me that useless people weren’t welcome around her. So much for gratitude, eh? Good for them, they got the truck open, but I wasn’t there to see it.
Anyway, I think the point I’m trying to make is that no matter who an individual is, they always have a story, or an opinion that may or may not be welcome to another. Maybe you don’t realize it, but that person may need you more than you think, or you may need them, and pushing them away maybe isn’t the best way to handle the situation.
On the other hand, if you’re just referring to jackasses, I can understand that, too. Folks who get their jollies messing with others may have less of a fun outlook than they seem to, and it’s another thing that’s up to your perception to make use. Come on, expose that other cheek a little. I might just give it a tap.
Not afraid to push buttons, softly..
BV