What constitutes cheating to you? {Possibly NSFW}?

I would say any form of intimate interaction with another is cheating. Thats kinda vague. Kissing or anything more physical is cheating in my book,but id find stuff like phone sex or even just really flirting with others be cheating.

Any action that goes beyond just innocent flirting is cheating, if it is done while conspiring to be unfaithful to me, consciously or subconsciously.

Anything that could be of a sexual nature for sure. Having a profile up on and talking to people on a dating website. Having and sharing intimate feelings for another person. Kissing on the lips.
Really the person knows what they are feeling and knows when they have begun doing things they should only be doing with Their S/O.

Each person is going to have a different interpretation on what cheating is, which is why it causes so many problems when it comes to relationships. The key is in finding someone who feels the same way that you do about the parameters and that they are discussed at the appropriate time before it becomes an issue.

All of the above, attraction is not a choice.

Puppets.

or anything else you put your hand up in. sesame streetwalker!

I have to agree with @Pied_Pfeffer. Not everyone is going to have the exact same boundaries for cheating. Take my husband and I for example: we both like flirting and joking with others and think it’s great fun, but neither of us would cross the line with it, and we know that about each other. He also likes to read my erotica and knows that I have shared it with a few other people, but he’s comfortable with that.

To me, cheating is anything my SO would do emotionally or physically with another that I believe is intimacy just between he and I. So yes, I see cyber relationships as cheating, I see “office spouses” as cheating, I see sex-texting as cheating, I see get lap dances by strippers as cheating.

If you are saying or typing or doing anything that you wouldn’t be comfortable with your partner hearing, you are cheating. I am not talking about conversations you might have with a close friend where you need a confident and for some reason your partner is not the right person to speak to, but where you are having conversations you know would hurt your partner and leave them feeling insecure.

@Neizvestnaya

I tend to agree. It’s the intent behind the behavior, and how intimate the injured party felt that behavior to have been.

Anything that you wouldn’t want your S.O. to do to you with another person is cheating. So it can be defined by the values of the individuals in the relationship.

Stealing money from me, and I guess a solid sexual relationship, but I understand one-time occurences.

I meant confidant and things you would not be comfortable with your partner hearing or reading.

Dishonesty or deceit is cheating. I couldn’t care less if my husband had a wild time in the Red Light district in Amsterdam on his business trips, as long as he tells me some good stories afterward :>)

To me putting all of your thought and energy into a relationship other than your primary romantic relationship is cheating even if it never becomes physical.

Giving someone the impression that you could possibly be interested in them is cheating. You can definitely cheat emotionally, and if you allow your ego to be stroked by letting a conversation go too far, that counts. I appreciate that if a woman flirts with my husband not only does he decline, he makes it awkward for her if she knows he’s married (which she should from his ring) and I do the same thing for him. Keep yourself above question in any situation.

If I wouldn’t do it with my husband in the room it’s cheating.

@noelleptc My Name is Earl is one of my guilty pleasures!!! You know Crab Man is the wisest on the show, he may know a thing or two!

For me the answer is simple – anything I’d be uncomfortable with my partner knowing, seeing or being party to probably means I’m cheating in some way or another.

Well, I’m a bit late, but now. Last relationship I was in started with – You no longer have any male friends.

@CaptainHarley: You’ve nailed it with the bit about what one partner feels is intimate and exclusive and the intent behind the action.