How can I cope with my mothers death today?

Oh, John. I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Take comfort in knowing that your mother is no longer in any pain or discomfort. I’m sending my love your way.

So sorry to read of this. My thoughts are with you.

Cope by what all positive you got to enjoy of her life and also that you live in a time where you have a support groups of sorts made up by people from around the globe, right here in fluther.

I’m so sorry to hear about your mother, John. I’ll be thinking of you and your family. <hugs>
And feel free to PM me anytime.

John, I am so sorry to hear that. I watched my Mom die 6 years ago, and had to settle her estate as well. That didn’t give me a lot of time for genuine grieving. Take some time for that, and don’t be surprised how long it sticks with you. I still haven’t recovered.
And, of course, you will be in my prayers.

Any reasonable person expects to survive their parents.
Having said that, no reasonable person is really ready for the moment.
I was the executor of my dad’s estate (my mom died before him).
It is a tough job, especially when the siblings are standing around with nothing to do.
I sympathize with you. You will, I am sure, rise to the occasion and do your best.
I don’t pray, but I wish you the best and you can PM me anytime if you wish.

Oh good heavens, I am SO sorry to hear that. Of course I have a spare prayer for you, and you be sure to PM me if you need to talk, okay? Losing a loved one is never easy, even if you had plenty of time to prepare for it. I am sending (((hugs))) and loving thoughts your way, and you and your family will most definitely be in my prayers tonight.

Of course John.
I am sorry about your mom.

I am very sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts.

I’m so sorry. Losing a parent is so difficult, but I know you’ll find the strength to get through this.

I’m so very sorry to hear about your loss. Sending lots of {{{HUGS}}}, prayers, and love your way.

Dear John:
Well you know my past…I’m here for you I will be sending a prayer your way. I’m really sorry about your mother :(( it’s never easy. I lost my dad 8 months before I lost my husband. It will be painful, and you can never prepare long enough. Remembering your mother at first is going to hurt like H E double hockey sticks. I never believed anyone but the pain does dull with time. I know you’ll be ok. If you ever want to talk you know where to reach me, I’m here for you like you were for me :) Big hugs Meego

Oh, John, I’m so sorry for your loss. I know her situation has been a worry for you for awhile, I hope she has found her peace knowing how devoted you were to her. I’ll keep you in my thoughts.

My sympathies for your loss and a prayer is the least I can do! I hope you find peace sir!

John, you are in my prayers. My mom passed recently and I know what you are going through. Just to add a little specialness to my mom’s funeral I hired a bagpipe player that played Amazing Grace as she was carried out to the hearse. It was beautiful and incredibly sad at the same time.

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.
So sorry for your loss.

Thanks everyone for the support. This is what I meant when I told my children to make some of the best friends in the world, possible. Good friends will be there when no one else cares.

You have proven this. john

I don’t know you very well, but I’ve always appreciated the answers you’ve written when I’ve seen them.

You have my deepest sympathy, and you will be in my thoughts.

I’m so sorry John. You and your family are in my thoughts.

I’m sorry for your loss John. I know you’ve mentioned in the past a few things about your mom’s situation, so I hope you can rest a little easier knowing she’s not going through any of that anymore. I hope you can find the strength you need to get through this time. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Seaofclouds. Thank you. We had discussed her substandard care in the nursing home and now she has died because of it. Just one step at a time for me. Thanks for sharing this with me.

I’m so sorry about your loss John.
I know that you have cared for and worried about your mom for a log time.
You are in my thoughts.

Dear John. I am sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. No matter how old we get or how much we try to prepare for such losses, we can’t. It’s good you have reached out to your support network here. I have lost both my parents, my grandmother and a sister and for me the best thing I could do for myself was to give myself permission and time to feel and grieve. There are no rules here. Listen to your inner voice and be kind to yourself. I am sure you have lots of friends here you know better than me, but if you do want to talk, I have a strong shoulder waiting.

Dear John: My prayers have been said. May you know peace.
Aloha Akua,
Jake

I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother. She is at peace, and will live inside you, and your children. A habit, a gesture, a turn of a phrase…she will be with you.

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You have my prayers.
Please accept my condolences.
I am sorry to hear about your loss, John.
My sympathies to your family.

I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers and thoughts go your way.

I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Remember that we carry those we love forever in our thoughts and hearts.

Love her. Remember all the moments with her.
Let part of her move into you to stay.
Share your grief and love with your family.

My condolences.

My sympathies go out to you and your family.

I am so sorry. Having gone through this with both parents, I can advise finding friends or partners who will see when you are overwhelmed and step in to help you. And take time for yourself. It isn’t selfish, it’s needed.

John, I am so sorry. Especially knowing what you have gone through, my sympathies.

How can you deal with the pain? It sounds trite, but time is the only true medicine for this loss.

Oh, John, I am so sorry that you lost your mother. We are never truly prepared for the thought that we will never see a loved one again.

Take good care of yourself as you go through all the processes that accompany death, Try to remember to eat and to get some rest.

Grief is hard on the body as well as the heart.

Sorry about the loss. Life will go on and will find a way through the difficult times ahead.

my mum died on christmas day, 2006. It will take a year before you can talk about her without crying. You will always feel her around, it never goes away. I am sorry, for your loss. It’s really hard. The first year is the worst

No matter how old you are, it hurts to be an orphan.
Your mom and dad loved you no matter what.
And you were always their baby.

I did all this a few years ago. It wasn’t as awful as I thought it would be. My kids helped a lot. I am sorry and I’m sorry she had suffered in the bad nursing home. Time is the thing. I’m finally using some things of my mom’s 4 years later.

Wow, John. I am very sorry for your loss. No matter how much you prepare, it hits you very hard. There will always be constant reminders of your mother around you, and she will truly never be forgotten. I send tons of love your way!!! I hope things go very smooth for you and your family.

I don;t have any advice to offer because I’ve yet to experience the loss of a parent. All I can offer is {{{hugs}}} So sorry to hear about this.

So sorry John, it doesn’t matter how old we are or how well prepared for the inevitable, it hurts like hell to become an orphan. I lost my parents years ago and I still miss them, often. But as time goes on, the grief doesn’t get smaller, life just once again, gets bigger.

Our hearts go out to you John. I am thankful that you have your wife at your side to give you comfort. It is clear from previous posts of yours how much you care about your mother and have always focused on making her as comfortable as possible.

This has been shared before, but I’d like to post it again as it may help in your time of grief. It was written by my sister when we found out that our father had terminal cancer.

To Daddy – I Love You So Much
—by KLLP

I was born to a forest and life was good.
Sunlight shown sweetly through the trees and warmed my soul.
Soft winds whispered gently the secrets of serenity.
In my forest, the trees were tall and strong.
Everywhere there was beauty, goodness and peace.

In the forest, I learned all that was important.
I learned how to appreciate the small things, such as rich earth, the delicate flowers, the burble of a brook, the sunshine on my face.
I learned to be strong like the oaks.
I learned to bend in the wind like the pines.
But most of all, in my forest,
I learned to love the world.
And in this, I was given the gift of great happiness.

But one day, a fire came.
And it took my forest away.
I looked up at the sky that seemed different now that the branches of my trees were gone.

And beyond to the heavens I shouted, “This is wrong!”
“How can you take away something so right, so good, so pure, so clean?”
“How can you take what is so important to me?”

The tears on my face were then tenderly dried by my friend the wind, as it blew softly over me, around me. And it whispered:
“Your forest is not gone.
Its seeds live on forever.
And they are so strong.
And they are everywhere.
The beauty of the forest will be in your memory forever.
The love it gave you will always be in your heart;
Its wisdom in your thinking;
Its strength in your soul;
Its joy in your being.
As long as you give to the world
What your beloved forest gave to you,
It will always be alive.”

And so it will be.

{{{{John}}}} I’m so sorry about your loss. Take comfort in the good memories and the fact that you have been a good son. You will heal as time goes on, I promise. It won’t be easy, but you will get there. Take care of yourself and hang close to those who care about you. You and your family will be in my heart.

I remembered you in my evening prayers last night, and I will continue to do so for quite some time. God be with you and give you comfort in knowing that your mother is safe in his arms.

I’m so sorry , John, and I will say a prayer today to help you deal with the loss of your mom. Please know she’s not suffering anymore and is in a much better place now. I believe she’s happy.

I have prayed for both of you John,last night and this morning.Will continue to do so and please always remember that we are here for you.
Love you.

You have my sincerest condolences. I hope you are able to take comfort in your friends and family members.

We recently lost my grandfather. Like you, my father and grandmother thought they were prepared, but found their grief to be much more than they anticipated.

I’m sorry for your loss, John.

I’m sorry for your loss and you will be in my thoughts.

When my mother died it felt like there was an enormous void left in the universe. That feeling has gradually lessened but I still feel her loss.

Take each day as it comes and let yourself grieve when ever, where ever you are.

A spare prayer? You got it. I’m sending as many good thoughts your way as I can, and I’m sorry for your loss. :-(