How can we help a sick alcoholic who won't go to the Dr. or hospital?

How is he getting money? I’m a bit of a drunk myself but I still need to function so I can get beer money.

He may have Diabetes he needs quick medical treatment if his feet our swollen, Lord I dont wish that upon him but find a Alcohol Recovery Clinic near by your town and get 1800 numbers asap for help and more advise. Start to google info around where is the nearest help. My brother in law had this problem and blesssed he only lost his pinky toe not his ankle/or whole foot.

@Cyndy : How is he getting the beer. Someone is supplying it to him. Someone is enabling him.

Cut off his alcohol supply immediately and call an ambulance to take him to the hospital, because he’s going to have dangerous withdrawals.

Edit to add: I’m a recovered alcoholic with 11 years 10 months and 28 days of sobriety. Nothing is easy when dealing with a raging drunk.

Seriously, if he won’t get in the ambulance after the alcohol supply has been cut off, then kick him out of the house.

I agree with @hawaii_jake – whoever is putting a roof over his head is enabling. Tough love is called for and alanon for the enablers.

It is hard but if you want to survive that is what must be done. If he wants to survive he will do something to help himself.

To add to @hawaii_jake and @rooeytoo have said, cut off his supply, including any money being given him. And tell his parent’s they are killing him if they enable him. It’s to the point the family is as sick as he is.

As the others have said,cut his supply off.
I find it strange that anyone would give him money or even keep alcohol in the house.
I would go to al-anon meetings and see what else you can find out.

Sounds like he has given up and I doubt he will listen to reason. IMO only a full on intervention would help him. Otherwise he has to want to stop on his own.

Involuntary commitment. Different laws apply for different states and I don’t know about outside the United States.

Call 911. Ask for an ambulance. Explain that this guy NEEDS help but isn’t willing to go so they can be ready to handle the situation.

Be prepared for a lot of anger and hurt feelings—possibly not only from your fiance’s brother, but from his parents.

I totally agree with @theninth. After all the anger and hurt feelings, he will eventually thank you.

I have many alcoholics in my family. In our case, most of them are living independently retired with pensions, social security-etc Several have now passed on.

None of mine have ever wanted help. The few of them that have gotten help did it on their own.

Does his brother want help? Do the parents want him out?

No, an intervention will absolutely not work if he does not want help. Period.

He should see a doctor for the diabetes if he doesn’t want to lose his legs. However, if he is unwilling to give up the alcohol or his lifestyle then no amount of medical intervention will prevent the inevitable.

I think he is right. If you don’t do something, he is going to die. No one can drink like that, or live like that for very long. As long as he is conscious, you probably won’t be able to do anything. It is next to impossible to legally “make” an adult do anything. Unfortunately you might have to wait until he has a cardiac arrest or slips into a coma before you can impose help on him. Of course, as many have pointed out, the person providing this lifestyle for him could stop it. If they had not enabled him all this time, it would have never come to this.

Ok bring a doctor to him. My sister used to be drunk and everything and hated hospitals and dr. But she loved nail doing people. The doctor said if she keeps drinking achol then her nails will fall off. Just trick him. Like I did