How do I handle my girlfriend always wanting more?

A difference in sex drive is a toughie. The only thing to do, really, is to talk it out. You’ve got to address it, otherwise one or both of you will start resenting the other. Pick a time when there is no way she’ll think about heading for the bedroom, like out on a walk or something. Whatever you do, don’t bring it up the next time she asks for sex. Worst time ever! That would really feel like a major rejection.

No matter what, it’s not cool for her to punish you for not having sex. That’s totally passive aggressive behavior, and not acceptable.

Have you sat down with her yet for a serious talk? If sex is the most important thing to her maybe she is in a relationship for the wrong reasons.

Often times when someone wants sex ALL the time, it’s because he or she feels a lack of control in other parts of his or her life. Maybe it would be good to look at what else is going on in her life and see if she needs help regaining a sense of control in her life.

She sees it as a cold rejection. That I dont love her enough or find her attractive enough.

This sounds like she’s insecure in the relationship, and needs constant validation. I agree with @FluffyChicken that this seems to be a control issue. The persona of the “perfect girlfriend” is willing to have sex all the time, and will initiate it, is all over the media. Every time you don’t want to have sex makes it not about you, but about rejection of her, and a sense that the relationship is failing.

By chance is she also prone to an eating disorder? That’s about control, too.

@BarnacleBill and FluffyChicken Wanting sex all the time does not always mean someone feels a lack of control in other parts of their life. It could also be a high than normal amount of testerone in her body I know for me that is the case. I crave sex regardless of what is going on in my life but its because I have over 3 times the amout of testerone in my body that a women normally has(its been tested by my blood). It is caused from having PCOS and my overies actually produce testerone making me have a higher than normal sex drive.

The punishing for him not wanting to have sex is what is concerning to me because no matter what you don’t take it out on your partner just because they don’t feel like having sex. Talking and seeing what is going on with her is the best answer for all.

@creative1 I didn’t say always, I said often times.

As for the rest of your answer, I agree. Her punishing you for it is not ok at all, and needs to be discussed.

It sounds as if her insistence on sex is about her own self-esteem. She is confusing love with sex.

This will be tough to fix without therapy.

Try pre-empting her by holding her and telling her how much you love her. Cuddle her with no sex.

Talk to her at a neutral time and place (perhaps in public) about how you do not feel the need for sex every day. That sometimes you are too tired or you don’t want to have sex with other people around. Suggest the two of you seeing a counselor.

Be brave, this may signal an end to your relationship unless she is willing to look into her own behavior.

She may have a really high sex drive and the security with you to want to let it loose.

She may be insecure about how you value her and so her sex drive is in high gear, the body’s way of trying to bond through chemistry.

Many of us females are raised with the assumption men want sex all the time, are capable of sex all the time and so if a man doesn’t want it then that means there’s something about us that is lacking.

How do you handle your gf? If you love her then you exercise patience, consistency and be reassuring of her appeal until she settles down and the focus shifts from collecting signs and deeds of “proof” to real sharing.

Some day you’ll look back at these times, and say to yourself, “Wait, I was complaining?”

You should just have so much sex with her that she gets a bladder infection. Then she’ll be off your back for a while…

First best answer is 6rant6. On the other hand might not be useful in your specific situation. It can be a kind of owning/possessiveness/insecurity that she maps into sexual expression and in that case cultivating her confidence in general and esp in your appreciation of her will help a great deal. Even if she is just horny (yay!) showing you appreciate that she wants you is important. Delayed gratification can be a fabulous workaround. When you are uncomfortable with the moment promise her a future rendezvous, be as specific as possible “Later, honey” is just avoiding, “Right after XYZ leaves I am so yours for the rest of the night” is the direction I suggest. Also taking responsibility for your feelings that you are shy or tired in the moment and making it clear you don’t think there is anything wrong with her she is just wonderful are important. Earlier post by marinelife has very good points about what to consider if mutual understanding is not happening & or you are dealing with hurt soul.

Would the answers still be the same if the male female role were reversed on this question?
Her high sex drive is a good thing and she may have a fetish about doing it no matter who is around. Kind of a naughty (don’t wanna get caught) kind of thing. To me that is kind of hot, but back to you….
The difference in libido is not the issue. The issue is the lack of respect that you are feeling and the passive aggressive response like others here have stated.
First, try to not feel guilty as you did nothing wrong. You are right that the guilt and the pressure may diminish things. Try to not overthink things.
If she is taking it as rejection and it makes her feel as it is a negative measure of your love for her or that she is not attractive then something bigger is going on.
Try to speak to her about it as it sounds like it is a topic of discussion needed on both sides. Somehow she needs to try to figure out why she feels like this.
Just remember, these are her feelings and there may be something that has occured in the past that is triggering it.
It sounds like you are caring of all this, so continue to be mindful of the situation.
Talk it out.