@DarlingRhadamanthus Oh dear. Misunderstanding. I mean that my story, even though it was from seventh grade, was a good story. Kicking the teacher was out of character for me. I was sitting at my desk, swinging my foot or something as she came down the aisle. Foot met ankle and it really hurt, I guess. I didn’t get into trouble really, except in my own head.
What I was trying to say was that it sounds like your fifth grade class was very special, especially if you remain friends for life with some of them. It sounds like you liked the smarter boys, whether or not they were taller than you. Not that the boys probably noticed. Although perhaps they were more precocious than the ones I know of. Are any of the people you remained friends with boys?
My wife is taller than I am. Most of the women I’ve had long term relationships with have been taller than I am. I didn’t think about it too much. They were who they were, and height didn’t seem to play a big role in it.
I do think that it would be nice to be taller than a woman I am kissing some day. That seems unlikely to ever happen. I think it’s mainly a social thing. For the vast majority of couples, it seems like the man is taller. So, while I rarely think about it, sometimes I wonder if I somehow look less because I am shorter. I mean, we know that taller people earn more money and hold more powerful positions. Indeed, my wife makes more money than I do.
I assume that the women who have liked me liked me for reasons that had nothing to do with my height. I’m not sure any have liked me in spite of my height. I’m not sure if I ever seduced any of them, although maybe once. I blame that on the pot, though. But surely she must have liked me before if she let me seduce her while we were high. She sure seemed to like me after, and was quite upset when I told her I didn’t want that kind of relationship with her.
I think that the main reason why I’ve had relationships with so many women who happen to be taller than me has nothing to do with my stature. I think it was about me. My qualities. The way they felt when they were with me. Mostly, I think that was because I paid attention to them and I listened to them. I was truly interested in finding out who they were.
I actually don’t understand why this seems to be an uncommon trait in men. But many women have told me it is rare for a man to listen. I think women are more interesting than men, in general. I like women better. I like the way women inhabit the world better. I like the way they tend to communicate and their concern for emotions, which are both stronger than what one usually finds to be the case with men.
So, working my way back to the question, I think that thinking of this as an issue of seduction pretty much misses the point. If you do the things that seem to speak to women more often—to listen and to understand express your feelings—many women will feel closer to you. More connected. It is this connection which allows you to build a stronger relationship—whether the woman is tall or short.
Focusing on height or seduction entirely misses the point, unless all you want to do is be a player. If you want to be a player, take one of those seduction courses that are out there. That crap works, it seems—at least, to bed the woman. I don’t think it works to get into a serious relationship. In either case, if you’re worrying about height, the worry is all in your head. If you want to get rid of that worry, get a lobotomy.
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