[Possibly NSFW] How much of a gender bender can you find attractive?

Really depends on the person, and how attractive they are overall. I find androgyny attractive in general.

I’m bisexual, and it really varies a lot. Gender is honestly not the first thing I’d be bothered about.

I would totally fuck James Dean if given the chance, despite being a straight guy…

As non-vanilla as I can be at times, I tend to prefer women that are more obviously feminine. I do admit that I have seen some shemales before that I thought were hot until the dick came tumbling out, at least… I’m lookin’ at you, Bailey Jay.

There are a lot of jokes going around that Lady Gaga is actually a dude, but I would still hit it like the fist of an angry god.

Dude-wise, I do find certain guys attractive like the guy from the Dos Equis commercials and young Harrison Ford, and Sean Connery but that’s purely in an aesthetic sense. I’ll say they are hot, but I don’t want to play with their dicks or have them crammed up my ass. Some of my male friends are very attractive… hell, I’ve cuddled around campfires with some of them before, but again, I don’t like penis, so it’s in a non-sexual way.

Behaviourally, I don’t like girly-girl anyway, so closer to stereotypically male is fine. And by that, I don’t mean it’s fine to be a rude, disgusting arsehole.
Dress-wise, anything is cool, short of a suit.
Anatomically, an at least somewhat feminine face is important, and at least some secondary sexual features (otherwise it just seems too weirdly childlike), and big muscles are no-no haha…

That’s not to say I don’t appreciate a good-looking male, there’s just no sexual attraction. By the same token, definitely no dick, thankyouverymuch, so no matter how stunning a pre-op you are, I will 100% fail to become aroused.

Post-ops transsexuals… hmm I guess its fine if you don’t tell me. Knowing shouldn’t make any difference, obviously, but sorry, it does.

I totally love effeminate Goth dudes with long hair, long fingernails, jewlery everywhere, frilly pirate shirts and tight leather pants. Not too big a fan of makeup on a man though. I also all those hippy dudes who are into all that Wicca and magic stuff. Some kinda social unspoken rule that only women would be into that, but that’s bullshit, so I enjoy the inner strength of a man who’s not afraid to be whatever the fuck he wants, and show his sensitivity. Some are a bit arrogant…but that can be neat too. Plus they always have long hair and funky beards lol. Yeah, a bit of some stereotyping, but hey this is something I’ve observed.
I also like it when dudes move in a sort of womanly way. The famous hand wave usually attributed to homosexuals, men who move their hair away with their hands, who walk all elegantly, stuff like that. It’s a nice change from the macho strut, which, by the way, I most certainly don’t mind, either.

As far as women go, I find myself attracted to the sporty women who work out, go around jogging or are into sports and all. Which is odd since I’m totally into none of that, but I like how they’re all energetic and hyper, for lack of better words. I also like how they move around, which is often different than a lot of women. Plus since they’re in shape, they tend to have nice bodies. Nowhere near butchy, but not like toothpicks like me, either.

Not entirely sure what my limits are. If some guy was wearing stockings and a bondage outfit, I don’t think I’d have much of a problem with that, although that alone would not be my reason to want to mess around with him. Same for a woman who totally dressed like a guy. Although speaking of limits, the kind of women who, besides their clothes, do what they can to look like a man kind of turns me off. But eh, if she was really nice and I liked her, I’m sure I could get passed that.

Did I even answer this right or…XD

For me, effeminacy can extend pretty far, barring long hair. For some reason, hair length can make or break someone in terms of attractiveness to me. A guy can be incredibly effeminate in personality, have a girly voice, paint his nails, wear tight clothes (though outright cross-dressing is a turn-off), but if he has short hair, I won’t write him off despite the fact that I’m not usually attracted to people that effeminate. In general I’m not very attracted to androgyny :\

I’m not attracted to feminine males or masculine females at all.

As a bisexual, I’m finding it hard to answer this. I guess I’m not attracted to either extreme; bull dykes scare me, and super effeminate men don’t attract me.

I have a (HUGE) thing for tomboys, not too manly though… :D

Thanks to all for honest responses. I really thought more Jellies would be like @Facade eschewing any deviance from the norm. Maybe most are like that, but also eschew questions like this one. :-)

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard, @The_Idler & @DominicX thanks for detailed answers. Much appreciated.

@Symbeline GA! Boy did you ever even answer this right. Very detailed and understandable.

The bendier, the better for me. Truly. I think gender is performative and the better the performer, the hotter it is.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir That’s how I feel about it as well.

For males you have to be on the masculine side of Richard Simmons, he just goes a little bit too far for my taste!

I always have been a tomboy, dress tailored and classic, no frills or ruffles, but am straight and have never had any trouble finding male partners.

I have always figured that the majority of people lean towards the center, super masculine men and uberfeminine females are the extremes and exception.

@rooeytoo I think that you are right about a bell curve applying to gender variations just as it does to most things with a statistical spread.

I’m an equal opportunity luster, and find all sorts of men and women attractive. I’ve dated pretty boys and manly men, and thought all of them were hot. For women, as long as they aren’t super girly (think little girl voice, ruffles and bows), I can find them attractive. I’m pretty sure (if I were single, and the opportunity came up) that I’d sleep with someone like Bailey Jay, too. ;)

@DominicX long hair on men is a deal breaker for me, too.

My limit is Justin Bieber. I don’t know who does that girl’s wardrobe and makeup, but she’s way too masculine for my tastes. ~