I have deep feelings for this guy I have been dating for 3 months and I am trying to get him to take it to the next level. Help?

Wait patiently for him to feel more confident that you two are on the right track. (He sounds like a keeper.)

Yes, I would let him take the lead on this one. Don’t rush him.

What level is that? Naked

No a relationship, boyfriend and girlfriend

Sounds like you are boyfriend/girlfriend already.

Be cool. Do nothing. You can’t make anyone do anything they’re not ready for, and to try and force his hand will only push him away. Don’t be that person who doesn’t feel OK unless someone else validates their lovableness. Healthy people run from that sort of person.

See this as an opportunity to practice patience. Realize that it’s insecurity telling you that need him to commit to whatever now! now! now! because you don’t. Enjoy the moments you have with him and then live the other parts of your life as well without worrying whether or not he cares for you. Either way you still have you, right?

There is nothing that you can do.

You cannot control how he feels, or where he wants to take the relationship.

Stop bugging him about it.
Be loving and caring.
And wait.

As above. What exactly is the “next level”. Sounds like a video game.

I agree with @aprilsimnel
Speaking from experience, it’s never good to try to force someone to go further than they want to go. It won’t be good for you or him.

I think he sounds quite mature. He’s looking after his needs while remaining fair to you. I’d give him time. Let the relationship develop at it’s own pace. Enjoy his company as opposed to looking for a label to give what you two have :)

He sounds like a man after my own heart, he’s most likely taking his time to make sure you are the one, only he can figure that out….. In his own time. Stick around if you can, he may be worth the wait. :-/
Only you can figure that one out :-/

You can’t rush him into anything if he’s not ready for it. It’s only been three months. Hang in there – if he’s really that great, he’s worth the wait.

The surest way to drive a man off is by being overly needy, clingy and pushy. The fact that he has already given you the keys to his place inficates an enormous level of TRUST. Are you unaware of how significant that is?

To me that would mean a lot more than just words. And what precisely is this next level?

Is it just calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend? Is it living together? What exactly is it and why are you being this impatient about things.

Three months is nothing. Is this the man you feel you’d want to be married to and spend a lifetime together? If so, a mere three months is a drop in the ocean.

He sounds quite a bit more mature than most guys who will say what they think a woman wants to hear just to get into her pants.

This guy sounds like he actually cares about you too much to hurt you with empty promises. You should be glad for that.

And the plain fact remains that if he decides that you are not the one and only for him, there isn’t a whole lot you can do about it regardless of what you manage to arm twist him into saying. That’s the plain truth.

The more you pressure him, the likelier you make it that you will drive him away eventually. You will have created the exact thing which you fear.

Relax and allow the relationship develop naturally at it’s own pace, use precautions against unwanted pregnancy and enjoy what you have.

Make yourself someone he feels joyful about spending time with not someone he needs to avoid feeling pressured by. If it’s meant to be longterm, it will be.

@Buttonstc What you said is beautiful for its truth in every word. Thank you for sharing this.