How do you know if a man is falling for you?

It certainly sounds as if he likes you. Look deeply into his eyes and tell him that you really like spending time with him and see what he says.

Oh – sweet. He likes you but is shy. Try a peck on the cheek one night and see what happens.

Screw what @janbb said, grab his crotch and throw him onto the couch/bed/jacuzzi… lol jk

But no, he does seem to be pretty shy about it, and approaching him GENTLY about it I think may be one of the best course of actions, give him a hug a see if it lasts longer than a just friends hug.

He wants to spend time with you, so obviously he likes you. If he hasn’t had a girlfriend, he may be insecure about how to progress things. If you want to, do as @janbb suggested, make a tiny move and see what happens.

Next time he hugs you,just kiss him.;)

How much more obvious does he have to be? It sounds like he isn’t quite sure about you, which means that either you don’t really like him, or he isn’t getting your signals. If it’s the latter, you’ll just have to make it clearer. Ask him if he would like to kiss you.

He’s not “just being nice.” He is nice. Yes, he likes you. I agree with @marinelife. That’s a nice innocent and truthful way to get him to open up a bit more. Don’t scare him off. Take your time and enjoy what is.

@wundayatta I don’t know about that being so obvious. I once knew someone whose eyes would light up whenever I walked into the room or spoke. He’d stand near me and touch the small of my back. And then one day, he elopes with his about-to-have-his-baby GF who he completely failed to mention during the two years we were in the same club. It very nearly put me off relationships permanently, my highly unusual current BF being my savior there.

P.S. We’ve crossed paths a couple of times since, and he goes out of his way to enunciate in a loud voice about how he and “HIS WIFE” do whatever. Just because a man (to be fair, person) acts all sweet does not mean he actually is.

You could be right @peridot. But this doesn’t seem likeley to be one of those cases. Also, your case may also be a case where he obviously did like you. It’s just that you weren’t the only one he liked. I’m sure she knew it, too. Clearly, by the way he talks when you are around, he is overcompensating to make it clear he no longer likes you. I’ll bet you a beer on St Patty’s day that he still does (like you).

@wundayatta Good perspectives… thank you for that. I also hope for @afm0ose07‘s sake her case is indeed not so much like the one I described. There is some great advice here for her!

Next time he hugs you just kiss him and see what happens. He sounds like a very shy guy and you just may have to take the lead….taser him if you have to!

@marinelife I didn’t have to say that I really liked spending time with him.. he told me that today, blushed and giggled.

@marinelife @Cruiser @peridot @wundayatta @Sunny2 @lucillelucillelucille @Mz_Lizzy @Winters @janbb

Okay.. new happenings here. I’ve got some advice from friends, but it’s always helpful to get more. This is coming from a text message from him. We hung out yesterday and he tried to hold my hand a few times while were at the Zoo – was touchy and stood close to me the entire time. He grabbed my hand twice for insignificant things and carried all my belongings in his pockets so I was hands-free. Also paid for most of our food and drinks. I mentioned going to the circus and he said we could go, and the aquarium and kept mentioning other things we could do- like going to the park at night, and too bad we didn’t have a blanket or we could take a nap.

We went to the park afterwards and sat on a park bench. He had his arm around me and at one point was rubbing my arm while I laid on his shoulder- we just talked, then went to eat. After everything he looked like he had something to say and finally said while blushing “I really like spending time with you, I mean, we’re already hanging out.. but I want to continue” Then put his hands in his face like a five year old and giggled. To me, it sounds like he was saying he liked me? I don’t get why he made a point of that.. Then I get this message from him below———

“We’ve spending a lot of time together and I’ve been having a great time. It’s just that i feel like as we’re becoming closer, we’re moving away from our friendship and towards something more of a friendship. I really care for you and what we have right now. It’s not something I want to lose by making things weird between us. So let’s continue to hang out and do stuff, but just as friends. I hope you’re alright with this.”

- In my opinion, it seems like he started to really show his feelings and got scared? At first reading EVERY SINGLE WORD in this text it seems like he never wants to date me, but that would maybe be jumping to conclusions. Advice? He just sent me another message saying “Everything alright?” I don’t know how to respond to any of this. I’m not fond of text messaging. I will be seeing him tomorrow. Thanks everyone for your input.

I meant from a friendship to relationship if you all catch that…

He does want to date you, BUT he doesn’t want to jump the gun and ruin it. He’ll actually need an okay from you that you two can start being in a relationship instead of a friendship (I think he may be scared that he may have ruined it from what he said and acted on the park bench and is attempting to salvage something he doesn’t know does not need salvaging). I do recommend however that you at least respect his apparent want to at least take it slowly, and not ruin it. In other words, he’s completely smitten and doesn’t want to lose you.

hahaha, I should listen to myself sometimes…

He tried to tell you that he wants to move to a relationship. You didn’t respond. He doesn’t want to lose you, so he’s backtracking a bit. He’s afraid he freaked you out because you didn’t respond positively to his overtures.

I think you should tell him how you feel. He’ll be very relieved. He is being terribly brave. Don’t leave him hanging in the cold.