Do you believe in soul mates?

No. But I do believe we have great connections with certain people. But, I don’t believe there is just one person for us, which is how soul mate is defined I think?

I don’t really believe in soul mates at all. People think they find their soul mate all the time, but then they end up getting married, then divorced. It just makes no sense to me anymore.

Yes, I do…and I fear I may have lost him…

This is an interesting way to look at soul mates, beshert in Yiddish.

It evokes mystery to a degree with which I am uncomfortable, but generally, the anwer is yes.

No. Not even a little bit.
This is my take on soul mates
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZHJl711OTCI

No, not for a second.

Sometimes I’m not even sure if I believe in “mates” at all.

Fantastic link, @Rarebear.

No, I think we can feel that way about a number of different people.

I didn’t until I met my wife. For me, she fits the definition to a T! : D

No. Too many people have been convinced they’ve met their soul mate only to discover the alleged soul mate changed over many years into a stranger.

NOPE not a chance

Not at all. I don’t even believe in souls, let alone soul mates. It’s nonsense, if you ask me.

I do believe in soul mates, but I don’t think they are strictly for romantic relationships or that there is only one person that could be your soul mate out there. They can be friends, family members, lovers or someone else entirely.

My soulmate and I met 45 years ago. It was love at first sight and it still blooms today.

I don’t believe in souls so this is a moot point but I do believe there are soulmates out there for people and of course there are more than one.

Yes….I thought it was simply a term of endearment until I met mine.

I believe that there are soulmates for people however I don’t know if everyone is always destined to meet them. Sometimes things get put in the way and you never meet. I don’t think you should be alone and instead find someone who makes you happy to be with and vise versa. Nothing has to be exactly perfect in life even though you want it to be as perfect as it can be.

@noelleptc See my link above. Your parents are probably alike because they have been together for years and years.

Sure. Why not? If it makes you happy to think so, and it works for you, I don’t see any harm in believing so. I have been with mine for 20 years this coming June.

I love how the people that have answered yes to this question, are for the most part in long-term relationships. =)

No. To re-post an answer I gave in response to a similar question: relationships are made, not found. Even my “perfect match” and I would need to learn how to have a relationship with one another. The myth that everything will work out once we find “the one” is probably behind many, many broken hearts.

What, anyway, is the practical benefit of believing in a single true love? If there is one, and only one, person who matches me perfectly, am I supposed to scour the world to find her? She could be anywhere and speak any language. Unless, of course, we believe that things have been conveniently designed such that we must run across one another. But how is that distinguishable from me meeting someone I like and learning how to make it work?

On one hand, I think a relationship is what you make it. I don’t think you are destined to be with one person and other relationships will be suboptimal.

On the other hand, my husband and I both prayed to find the perfect match for ourselves… and we found each other very shortly after. We knew immediately that our connection was very special. I choose to attribute this to divine intervention/soul mates/whatever.

@Cruiser

Way to go, dude. You’re certainly among the lucky ones. : ))

Sure I do believe…I’ve always been the sucker or have always had a thing for love… But I can’t say that my Girlfriend now is my SOUL MATE but I say she’s my SOUL mate. Since she has my soul in the palm of her hand…But I do love her with all my heart. And there’s not a day and night I don’t think about my love. But I do think, just that love takes time. If you rush through it…might as well be on Desperate House Wives or a prostitute is how I think of it. But I’m still young and lustful. But I can tell the difference between my love and lust for someone or something. Right now I have both love and lust.

@jonsblond I’ve been happily married for 17 years and in my relationship for 20 and I said “No.”

It appears that people who say no to this question are often (not always) unfortunate enough to have experienced a bad relationship. If you have a good lasting relationship, as I do, then it is easy to say yes, as you can’t imagine yourself being with anyone else. I don’t think anyone will really ever know if there is only one compatible person for them, but I, for one, have no intention of finding out if there is anyone else.

@Harold The reason I said “no” has nothing to do with the quality of relationships I’ve been in. I’ve been with my wife for nearly ten years now, and I cannot imagine being with anyone else. That doesn’t mean, however, that our connection is some mystical gift of the universe. It is the product of an initial attraction being refined and magnified through mutual respect and a great deal of effort. Everyone hits rough patches, and those who aren’t willing to work on their relationships lose them at precisely those times.

@Rarebear I wasn’t talking about the people that said no. Can’t I pat my fellow believers on the back? Why you gotta piss on my happiness?

I really don’t know. I think I want to believe in soul mates more than I actually do.

@yankeetooter This is probably no consolation but if soul mates exist and if this person was your soul mate then he probably wouldn’t be so easily lost. There’s a really good saying: “If you love someone, let them go, if they come back to you then they were always yours, if they don’t come back then they never were”.

@SavoirFaire – I have no disagreement with you. I do not see the concept as being spiritual/mystical, but maybe fatalistic?? I was not referring to you in the answer anyway, as I did say “not all”.

@Harold Fatalism seems just as mystical as any other explanation to me. And while I know you were not referring to all, it’s still worth noting that I am just one of many data points that does not fit your generalization. I imagine there are many more than you think there are.

@SavoirFaire – Fair comment, point taken.