Up until my early twenties, I was horrendously shy. I mean like, it was abnormal. I couldn’t even ask the clerk at the store something without stumbling over my words or anything. When I got to know people, yes, I came out of my shell. But that took a long time, and most people were freaked out too much to wait around too long. Just the thought of talking to people or being noticed frightened me to no end.
I think there was a lack of balance going down, because when I did feel comfortable around people I got to know, I wouldn’t shut up and I’d be all hyper and stuff.
Compensation perhaps? I think this is perhaps what gave me a teenagehood of delinquency lol, since when I felt accepted and comfortable with people, I didn’t wanna loose it, and just did whatever they did. Maybe. I don’t remember ever being forced or pushed much to do any of the stuff I did, it felt like my own choice, and right to me. Maybe because like, it felt so different than what my life was usually like. Causing trouble in public, getting busted for underage drinking, sneaking away from group homes for days to fuck around and do nothing constructive. Kinda felt relieving. XD
Still, could be it, I denno. I was a big fan of thinking I didn’t give a shit what people thought, but that wasn’t true at all, I was pretty insecure.
But it was really hard sometimes, I fucked up so many job interviews this way, school was a bitch because there’s always people around. And while I came out of my shell as I described, there were some people that I still never could be comfortable around, even though as far as I know they were completely fine folks. And some people I got to be TOO comfortable with. It was messed up man lol.
I didn’t really DO anything to change though. One friend I had helped me a LOT with this and tried to get me to do things or act in ways that would help to break out of this, and I tried, and kept at it but I never really thought her advice would help so I really made no effort. But eventually this shyness problem went away. Maybe it went away on its own, maybe my friend’s tricks and advice worked, no matter how half assed my attempts, but either way it’s gone now, at least mostly.
I mean I’m still pretty shy and reserved and kind of insecure I guess, but I don’t have that whole sweating like a pig fear thing and not being able to speak when someone asks me for directions. People don’t ask me to speak up or repeat what I said anymore. I think I pass as a fairly normal person now. XD I just don’t talk much, and rather be on my own, despite all my long winded posts on here haha. But I can communicate normally.
That might not seem like so much but if you knew me before in real life and saw me now, you would notice a difference.
So I guess that’s how I changed, but I’m not entirely sure how it went. One good thing about being this shy is that I got pretty good at interpreting body language, starting with myself. Gotta have some good somewhere lol.