Was this waitress tip inappropriate?

I would wonder if she told this story to everyone and was making a pretty good living from it.

I don’t know. Something smells fishy and it’s not a fish market. Either way, you were very generous, John.

I have doubts about the honesty of such tales (but I’ve never heard of someone using their job to panhandle—that’s a first for me, too). But I still give to panhandlers sometimes. I look at it like this: at least they’re asking for money voluntarily and peacefully instead of robbing and hurting people.

Your tip was more than enough, and you were fully aware that the waitress is doing a job in order to make money. I see nothing inappropriate here. Quite generous of you, though.

Sounds liek bull shit, and it was unproffesional of her to do that.

She should not have solicited any money from her customers.At all.
You were nice to give her extra cash though.

It was nice to give her that money, but it seems a little fishy. Not worth crying over though!

You went with your gut and your heart and that’s just fine in my view. It’s rare meeting a person who does manipulative acts like that. An actress in training or a hidden mental case.

Wife and I talked this situation over. Generally, we will give money to a homeless person, but this was a different situation. We decided that maybe she was an angel and testing us. The $20 did not bankrupct me and we both feel good in the decision we made.

P.S. ........we have not seen this waitress again, after 3 more followup trips to this particular restraunt.

She should not have solicited money like that. But you are a truly generous person, and if it wasn’t a hardship on you to give her the money, then I think it’s OK. You may never know if she was lying or scamming. She may really have some horrible problems. It doesn’t even really matter, because what you did came out of the goodness of your heart. Even if she used the money to buy beer, you were still “paying it forward” by showing her that not everyone is heartless. If she was scamming you, maybe she’ll learn, by your example, to be a little more generous. If she was truly in need, then she’s probably extremely grateful.

She may not work at the restaraunt anymore because other patrons complained. No matter, you did a good deed. Thank you for that.

As Sheryl Crow would sing, “If it makes you happy, it can’t be that bad.”

The waitress’ behavior was inappropriate, but your tip was not. That was very nice of you and your wife. You never know; it could have made a huge difference in her life. If you were taken, well, as you said, “The $20 did not bankrupt me and we both feel good in the decision we made.”

My husband would have done the same thing; on the other hand I would have been skeptical of such behavior. I’m wondering if some other skeptical customer said something to the proprietor and the waitress was terminated.

Some people just talk, and others just look approachable. It is not clear to me from the details that this woman was soliciting money as much as talking to people who looked like they might listen. Happens to me all the time. Especially at airports for some reason.

@SavoirFaire Now that you mention it, people seem to come up to me and talk to me too. I don’t mind either, unless they seem skeevy. I’m always chatting up little old ladies and gentlemen at the grocery store. Sometimes I think I’m the only person they’ve had to talk to all week.

There’s a pretty good chance you were just gypped outta twenty-five dollars, but hey, waitresses get paid shit wages. I can’t blame her much, and good on ya, mate!

It doesn’t matter in the least if you were swindled. You did a good deed, and you should feel good for it.

As you were being seated? I find that very odd. If it were a slow night and you all were chatty and she revealed her difficulties in a somewhat normal course of conversation then that would seem more normal, but when you first got there? I doubt I would have given her extra money. Don’t think twice about it though, it’s done, and it probably did help her, even if her behavior was innappropriate for work. If I was her boss I would be pissed.

This question is intriguing. I know women who need to talk about their feelings when tragedy occurs, there are also women who do such things for evil reasons. With that said @john65pennington your intention was to do good. So when it’s our time to be judged you are free and clear if the person was in fact evil they have to face that on their own day. If she wasn’t trying to make customers feel bad for her, I think she should do what we all should do…leave home life a home it’s not work appropriate talk in a customer relation situation unless brought on by the customer.